My mom offered me her wedding dress…

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: It is weird to wear mom's dress from previous marriage?
    No, seems fine to me : (24 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, super weird : (53 votes)
    53 %
    It depends : (23 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @BluebonnetBride:  I dont think its weird. I mean it was your moms dress. She picked it out. I think it has more meaning to her than her first  wedding. It was her FIRST dress. I can understand how you would feel either way. I would humor her and try it on :).

     

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yeah a little weird!  Is it outdated?

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I wouldn’t want to wear a dress my mom wore to marry a man who wasn’t my father.  

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @BluebonnetBride:  Does your Dad know about the dress now? Talk to your dad and see if he would be comfortable with you wearing it. Regardless of his answer I think you should at least see the dress and try it on for dear old mother. If you end up liking the dress then talk to your dad again and ask him to see it on you (he may like it as well). If he doesn’t like the idea of the dress then you at least know what style you are looking for AND you let mom see her daughter in the dress. (Assuming you like the dress after all of that) 

     

    -if you don’t like the dress then at least you tried it on and know what style to avoid 

     

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @BluebonnetBride:  I’d probably stay away from it, just because of the strong possibility of it upsetting your dad. Might be fun to try it on though haha. Tell your mom that it’s really important to you to pick out your own dress, and that you thought it would be nice for the two of you to go dress shopping together…who can argue w/ a mommy daughter day? : )

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t feel comfortable with wearing that dress. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d let that sleeping dog lie… Just tell her you want to pick out your OWN expensive wedding dress. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Your dad doesn’t know about the dress? So are you supposed to keep its origin a secret?

    Seems weird either way. I wouldn’t want to wear it.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I would totally wear it if I loved it. your father is a grown up and will understand if you want to wear a dress that your mom picked out for herself.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee

    @BluebonnetBride:  You didn’t mention the style at all.  It must be decades old.  Do you like it?

    Yes, super weird.  It really doesn’t matter how expensive it was.  The money we spend on our dresses is not recoupable!  Nothing you can do about that!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Hmmm, it does seem a little strange. I would probably want to see pictures (just out of curiosity!), but wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing a dress from a marriage that ended.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Well you could get it altered – pleasing your Mom without upsetting Dad. It is a just dress, albeit an expensive one. I wouldn’t be worried about bad Mojo being attached to it.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable in a dress that my mother wore on her wedding day to another man in which she was than divorced from. I’m somewhat superstitious (not on everything) but I couldn’t imagine wearing a dress that someone wore than was divorced. 
    I would tell her I was uncomfortable knowing this information and that you want to have your own wedding dress shopping experience. Get something you want to wear and are going to be comfortable wearing!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Your mom seems to have a lot of hopes tied up in this dress. Why not just humor her and try it on? If your mom went to all the trouble to save this dress she probably did it in the hopes that she would someday have a daughter to wear it… Give her that moment and then move on and find your own dress. What can it hurt?

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