Post # 1
I have really close friends who I refused to even describe my dress to! At my family xmas party of over 30 people, a cousin all of a sudden started gushing over my dress! My FI didn’t even know I’d gotten a dress. I’m so devistated I feel like my day was stolen from me. I know that’s selfish but I don’t care I worked my butt off to pay for my dress and didn’t want anyone but my parents and bridal party to see it. I wanted it to be a complete suprise and now over half of my guest list already saw it. Whats worse, is this has caused yet another huge fude between me and my sister and my mom. I don’t understand how I had a loving, reasonable, considerate, intelligent family until I got engaged!
Post # 3
Oh! I’m so sorry!!! were they pics of you in it? I’m sure they will still be wowed by it. ((hugs))
Post # 4
🙁 I’m so sorry!
Has your FI seen it? Probably no one will show it to him, and that’s really most important, right? Plus, you’ll still look totally amazing (and way different from pics taken in a dress shop) once it’s altered, you’re in some spanx and full make up, hair and veil… you’re still gonna wow the crowd.
this stinks, but what’s done is done, unfortunately. Maybe Mom should pass all wedding related correspondence by you in the future. :/
Post # 5
thank you! no, initially I thought it was a photo of me, unaltered dress, no makeup, and wet hair. my internal hysterics were considerably calmed when I realized it was the stock photo of a model in the dress that went out.
Post # 6
Yeah, were they pix of you in it? It makes a HUGE difference. I mean, they will know if there are long sleeves or if it’s strapless, but once you put it on it looks totally different.
In the meanwhile, tell your Mom you decided on a different dress so she’ll stop. Tell her you are so embarrased you even considered that one and you’d appreciate if she’d stop showing people.
Post # 7
OMG I would seriously kill my mom if she pulled something like that! At least it wasn’t a pic of you in the dress. There’s a huge difference between some stock shot of the dress and you actually in it. Still, wtf is wrong with moms sometimes?!?
Post # 8
Oh my! I also have only shown my FI and my mom so I’d be super pissed if a picture of it even went out. Probably so much that I’d go and buy a new dress.
Any idea what possessed her to send it out?
Post # 9
does you mum realize that she has done a big no-no and apologized?
i would be banning her from any more wedding realted info pics as if it was me
Post # 10
Wow. I would be really upset if my mom had done that to me.
Just remember that seeing the dress- even on you- is not going to be anything like seeing you in it on the big day- with you hair and makeup, accessories, flowers, and glowing smile.
Try not to dwell on it and let it ruin the experience for you.
Post # 11
thats really no fair, I’m so sorry. I do think seeing a picture of the dress versus the dress in real life will be 2 totally different sites, so I think it will still be a “surprise”.
One of my **non engaged** bridesmaids decided she wanted to try on a wedding dress when we were all shopping for bridesmaids dresses, and worst of all my FMIL (her mom) said it was OK – I know what it feels like to have someone steal your thunder.
I agree with rosychicklet, don’t dwell and let someone else ruin it.
Post # 12
i realize it sucks. my mom decided to show my dress to everyone who walked in the door, because i stupidly left it at their house thinking my fi wouldn’t see it there. i didn’t realize everyone else in the world would. of course when i learned this, i told her that i’d like the dress to be a surprise, and she told me she was just excited about it which is why she felt the need to show it off. my positive thinking is that nobody on my fi’s side has seen it, other than his mom, and that’s a lot of people. plus, it’s really not the end of the world. when you’re all decked out in hair, makeup, jewelry, etc, people will think you look amazing and that’s what matters.
Post # 13
i agree with everyone else! and stock photos usually look NOTHING like the dress in person and on a real live person
Post # 14
Oh no! Really really sorry to hear about this. At times like this, I always try and revert to what my poppa has always said — What were the intentions at the heart of action? Your mom is clearly over the top excited. As hard as it is, this is definitely one of those times when thinking about the intentions behind the action might bring some solace.
Post # 15
Wow I really feel for you…I can’t believe your mom would do that. At least it was the model photo and not a pic of you in it…but still, I would be really upset too. Just remember you will look totally different with it on on your wedding day and people might even forget about what the dress looks like beforehand and still be surprised when they see you in it!
Post # 16
Did she know it was secretive? Otherwise, that’s something I could totally see my mom blabbing about! She’d just be so darn excited she couldn’t keep it to herself!