Post # 1
I recently got engaged to Mr. Marquise after 6 months relationship. He pop the question without my parents present. My parents are trying to get used to the idea that I am getting married. My dad is more open about Mr. Marquise than my mom. My mom does not talk about the wedding whatsoever. But in Xmas time, my mom bought him a Xmas card from one of his favorite store and he was very touched about it because he hardly receive any Xmas present from his family. He came and cook for the family so I imagined that everything was working ok. But when I talk to my mom something about the wedding planning, she ‘s starts panicking about being so soon and me talking about cakes. I felt reaaly hurt that his mom is more happy about the engagement than my mom. And also I feel like she is evading me and we are really close and it is the first time I have a situation like this with her.
Post # 3
So sorry you are going through this. Are you an only child? Or are you the youngest child if you have siblings? If you are really young and live at home or something like that, she may just feel like she is losing you. Sort of like you are leaving her. You said that you are really close with your mom, so she may just be having a hard time with you “growing up”. You should try talking to her and letting her know that you love her and that you will always be hers. It may help her to feel better. Tell her that it would mean the world to you if she could be happy for you and your fiance. Also maybe tell her that you want her to be a part of the planning. If she says no, she will likely come around. It sounds like the is just sad that you are “growing up.”
Post # 4
I think they are sad about you growing up. But it’s probably also a combination of; they think your relationship before engagement was ‘short’ (in their eyes) and that he did not ask their permission first. I know my parents would flip out about those things!
Post # 5
awww darlin, I understand what your going through. Shes just worried/scared/shockeed that her little girl is growing up. Give her time till she gets used to it.. shell be excited when the right time comes for planning the big descions- like choosing a venue- and a dress! Give her time, Go out with her and talk to her about it.
Maybe your Fiance should also talk to your parents … See how theyre coping, reassur them that their little girl is in good hands?