(Closed) My mom strikes again. ~sobs~ (long, sorry)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It IS your day. Remember that. You’re not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own.

It sounds like you’ve been super considerate of everyone, I wouldn’t worry a bit. Your mom might just be emotional over you getting married, so it might be coming out in weird ways. 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just keep telling yourself that it is YOUR and YOUR FI’s day and other people need to keep the negativity in check. Try not to let it bother you, though I know that’s easier said than done.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@alligatress: Aww, I’m so sorry for you but I also have to chuckle a little bit because I know how this feels (except it’s with a FMIL and it’s not exactly a “destination wedding”). Since I booked blocks of rooms at 3 different hotels and the wedding is about 2 hours away from FH’s hometown, she talks all the time about how much fun it would have been to either have it in their town or to have “everyone together” at one hotel. This is followed by long pauses when she looks meaningfully at me and sighs mournfully, as if I’m ruining her wedding plans haha. I wish adults could act their age about weddings- everyone can take care of themselves, people!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I hear you! The granddaughter of one of my father’s coworkers just had a destination wedding not far from where our DW will be (Colorado mountains). The coworker and his family rented out a B&B and basically everyone stayed together and now my dad is convinced that is the best thing ever. While I’m totally fine with that, our location doesn’t have anything larger than 9 bedrooms for rent which would not accomodate everyone. Also, the larger places are a distance from our ceremony/reception site. When I tried to explain this to my mom she snapped at me that we picked an expensive place to get married and not everyone can afford it. Gee mom, sorry we picked a place that we love. Oh yeah, from the time we picked a location and told everyone until the wedding is 19 months. If you can’t save up enough for a couple nights in an “expensive” hotel, then don’t come. I understand. Send me a nice card saying congratulations and call it a day. But how about you stop making me feel bad that we didn’t pick our wedding location based on hotel pricing and guest convenience?

P.S. The hotel pricing you are looking at is for peak ski season, while we are getting married in September which is actually the least expensive time to stay at a ski resort. DO YOUR HOMEWORK BEFORE YOU BITE MY HEAD OFF! Moms…

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