(Closed) My mom told me I look fat in my wedding dress

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So I guess the question is, do you retaliate with “Well, guess I didn’t have genetics on my side” or do you take the high road…

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How mean. 🙁  I bet you look amazing.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

omg how awful!! I’m sure she’s just passing on her own body image issues to you.

If you think you look great, you do!!!!

Not going to lie, my mom would say something just like that. ugh. Some people just need to stay quiet.

Post # 5
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1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is horrible!!!  I am so sorry she said that & knocked the wind out of your sails.  What an awful thing for your mother to say.

If you want, maybe you could post some pictures of you in the dress & we can all tell you how amazing you look?  Smile  Because I am sure you do!  At the very least, try to remember how you felt in the dress before you showed your mom.  You’ll be a beautiful bride!

Post # 6
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

:::HUGS!:::

That’s horrible…. I know how you feel though… Before I even tried on dresses my mom was saying, you’re too fat to wear a drop waist or mermaid. Tried on a drop waist and it was beateous. Forget her, you’ll look stunning!

Post # 7
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

thats awful.  your first instinct was right – you looked awesome.  maybe you can remind your mom “if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say it:”

Post # 8
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5154 posts
Bee Keeper

…and all I wanted was a non-bitchy supportive mother.. people rarely get everything they want. 

Post # 9
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781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

oh my mother tells me i’m fat in some snide way all the time. 

“You mean you still fit into an extra large?”

*looks me up and down* “YOU’RE drinking hot chocolate?”

It’s her way of being motivating.  Took me years, but now it’s kind of amusing just to see what comment she can come up with.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry! I’m sure you look beautiful! As long as you think you look amazing that’s all that matters:)

If it makes you feel better my older sister said I looked like a little girl playing dress up a week before my wedding while drunk…and my mother comforted her b/c she was upset she wasn’t getting married and ignored me. I thought I looked pretty and so did everyone else.

Post # 11
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

@Magdalena: I’m really sorry your mom said that to you. My mom would probably say something similar to me. It’s so hard b/c she’s probably the one person who you would love to hear the words, “you look beautiful” from the most. Just frustrating. 

I bet you look amazing in your dress. And the only person whose opinion matters is your own.

Post # 12
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Believe it or not, Many parents are just like that. I dont know why, but they say they want us to be the best but not give us the pat on the back that we need — Im sure you look GREAT- and a size 6 is a wodnerful size.. Cant wait to see ur pics because im sure ull be a beautiful bride <3

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is the second post like this that I have seen on the Bee in the past 24 hours.  It makes me sad that there are women out there who treat their daughters like this.  I am sure you look fabulous!  Even if you do look fat in your dress (which I’m certain you do not!) she shouldn’t say anything like that.  sweet jesus!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I read back through your previous posts and I am guessing that she is having a lot of emotions right now and just doesn’t know how to process them all.  A size 6 is definately not fat, I am sure you will look perfect!

What dress did you end up going with, you were looking for the lace topped dress at DB, did you get something similar?

 

Post # 15
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would have marched my fat ass straight to McDonalds and grabbed a BigMac with a large Fry. Then I would have eaten it right in front of her.

Post # 16
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That’s terrible.

File it away under “Types of things I will NEVER say to my children.”

Then tell her, “I know right? I got your hips/belly/body part you KNOW she’s sensitive about.”

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