- 5 years ago
So my mom really wants my bf’a aunt to make my wedding dress (our families are really close. I call her “Aunt Xxxx” too and have since I was a little girl). I love the idea- I want a bell-sleeved wedding dress, which are really hard to find without ordering online (which I am wary of doing); plus I can’t find “the one.” I always wish it had elements of another- the neckline is wrong, I don’t want a train that long, too much lace, I don’t want buttons there, etc. I don’t care that some people think they’re outdated, I want one. But not a ball gown, something simple and elegant and feminine. Ok, rambling over.
Anyways, I love the idea. I get a custom made dress, and it’s sentimintal, and she wouldn’t charge me for anything but the material. But my mom wants me to have my dress made like, now, even without the engagement. She says his aunt may not be around when I get married (which is true, as I don’t plan on getting married anytime soon), and if she is, she may not be able to see or move well enough to do it. And a dress is something I can put up for later. The problems? One, I want to go dress shopping. I want to get ideas on the fabric, the cut, the train, etc. Just because I have a picture in my head doesn’t mean I won’t find other elements I like better by trying on a dress. And I can’t go shopping until I have a ring on my finger, which likely won’t happen anytime soon. Then there is the fact of what if I don’t fit it when I go to get married? Mostly, though, it’s the fact I can’t see going dress shopping or having my dress made until I’m engaged, but I can tell it means a lot to my mom.
Bees, what would you do?