My Mom wants to invite her co-workers, don't really wanna. Help!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 5
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@icanhearyousmile:  I feel like if she was paying for the wedding then you should invite them out of graciousness and appreciation.  If you are paying, however, it is up to you. If you do have extra room, it sounds like it would mean a lot to her if she could bring them, but you are not doing anything wrong if you choose not to invite them.

Post # 7
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@icanhearyousmile:  It makes a lot of sense and it’s a tough situation to deal with.  It’s actually one of the many factors that made me want a destination wedding. I also have no desire to have strangers at such a personal event as a wedding, but I feel terrible telling people they didn’t make the list. 

Post # 8
98 posts
Worker bee

I had the same issue with my daughters wedding.  I really wantEd to invite my work friends who I’ve known for 16 years. But that would mean they couldn’t invite some of THEIR friends. so I didn’t invite anyone I work with. They al understood and just said please bring lots of photos so we can see.  Some of them even went together and bought a very nice gift. Your mom needs to uunderstand that this is YOUR day. Oh, by the way, we are paying for everything. 

Post # 9
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sadiepoo:  You deserve an internet high five for being such an awesome, understanding mother 🙂

Post # 10
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@icanhearyousmile:  I think in consideration of FI and to keep the day intimate you need to tell your mother there is no room for them.

Post # 11
6675 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

How many people are we talking?  15 people with dates, or 2 single ladies?  If it is the later then I would give in to mom.  Some things are not worth fighting over.  But if it is a crazy amount of people then I would shut it down.

Post # 13
3217 posts
Sugar bee

Personally, I think if your mom wants to invite people to an event, she should host one. 

To be honest, she is probably way overestimating their desire to actually attend.  Who wants to take one of their valuable weekend days to attend a wedding of a co-workers child that you met a few times 10 + years ago? I sure wouldn’t.


Post # 15
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

My parents invited about 30 people I don’t know but our deal is that they pay for whoever they invite…problem solved!

Post # 16
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you made the best decision.  They have probably invited her to their kids weddings/events. 


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