Post # 1
I need your thoughts on this one. In my culture the bride usually wears gold or yellow color for her wedding gown but being born and raised in America I’ve adopted both cultures as my own so I’ve compromised with my family and my fiance’s family by having our engagement party follow my cultures customs, and for our wedding day we will be following western customs. Well my mother doesn’t understand that the only person in a white gown on the wedding day should be the bride. I’ve explained to her that white dresses are usually worn by the bride but that she can wear what ever other color pleases her. She now wants to wear black. Is black okay for the mother of the bride to wear? Mind you it’s a summer evening wedding.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Post # 3
I think it’s okay for the MoB to be in black but seeing as it’s a summer wedding, I would think something a little more colorful. But again, it’s up to her. But I’m glad you will be the only one in white. :o)
Post # 4
Black is totally acceptable. My mom was contemplating a black dress (summer wedding also). A lot of people wear black to weddings and I don’t think it’s really a big deal.
Post # 5
I’d prefer that my mother and fmil stuck to a more lively color. Especially in the summer I would not think that black on the MOB is the best option. Maybe you should try going shopping with her and make some suggestions that she may like.
Post # 6
The mother of the bride is not supposed to wear black, but these customs are fairly relaxed.
Traditional MOB colors: Navy, Champagne, Brown, and any dark color (dark green, dark purple, etc.) But almost never black. Some people think if you wear black it means you don’t approve of the wedding.
Good luck getting her to do what you want!
Post # 7
She’ll probably get some snickering from Western guests, but it is better than white. If this is one battle too much, you could get her a shawl or something else in a vibrant color with patterns from your heritage.
Post # 8
I think that black is definitely fine, and it’s much better than her wearing white! I agree with monitajb that she could wear a lively color shoe or shawl to help with the myth that she’s mourning her daughter getting married.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think black is absolutely okay! I think it would look great!!
Post # 10
Black can totally be OK. My Mom wore a black and silver dress but my MIL wore a beautiful all black dress BUT my wedding colors were black and white so it worked for us. I still think it is an acceptable color and like the pp said much better than white.
Post # 11
I think black’s a great color, actually. She can always add some bright jewelry to accessorize.
My mom wore a black and white gown, and she looked lovely.
ETA: Mrs. Swan’s mom wore a white gown, and she also looked lovely!
Post # 12
My FMIL and mother are both contemplating black dress for an evening May wedding. I don’t see a problem with it at all especially if your event will be more formal. And I highly doubt that anyone would snicker or think less of a mother who wears black to a wedding but in the end the color should be something you both are comfortable with.
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Post # 14
Thank you for your thoughts. I think black is fine too since it’s an evening wedding.
Post # 15
I feel you on this – my mom wanted to wear black at first, when I shot that down (I think it’s too funeral like for the MOB at a semi formal wedding) she started showing me pics of white dresses.
Post # 16
I say yes to any color other than white. My FMIL is wearing black to our wedding, outdoors, mid June. As long as she’s comfortable (and not in white) then its all good.