Post # 1
So my parents are paying for my wedding they told me its my wedding I can invite anyone I want. So my sister and I have been on the rocks, and haven’t been talking for the last 9 months. Both of our choices. I told my mom I didn’t want her to come to my wedding but she can come to the reception. My mom then waited untill 2 weeks before my wedding to tell me she wasn’t comming. She said the reason is that if shes paying for my wedding the she can invite who ever she wants. I finally gave in and told her she can invite my sister, but she still won’t go. I feel she is choosing my sister over me and it’s very hurtful if she doesn’t go. I don’t know how I’ll get over it. By the way my sister is very is verbally abusive to my family ,has a drug and alcohol problem, and is a chronic liar. What should I do? I sent My sister an invite to the wedding only to get ignored.
Post # 3
Mend the gap.
I have a brother with ‘on/off’ substance abuse problems. I think most addicts have some depression/psychological problems that cause them to abuse. It was important to my mother that he be in the wedding party so we asked him, even though we didn’t really want him in it. I’m glad we asked him, I always want to be positive part in his recovery. It’s not an easy situation but family (good or bad) just like marriage requires work and understanding.
Explain this to your mother and hopefully she understands. It would be a shame for you to look back with regret.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Post # 4
That does put it in a different perspective for me. I hope your brother is doing well now. Thank you for you comment. I extended the invite to my sister. I still haven’t heard from my mom, or my sister. I’m trying not to worry about it too much. it’s putting a lot of stress on me, and my future husband. I opened the door to both of them and it’s there choice to walk through it. The day is about me and my future husband I keep trying to remind my self.
Post # 5
Your in a very tough position….and I don’t have any great advice except say this- Your mom engaging in emotional blackmail and acting immature, so she is paying for the wedding so what, this is your day! Weddings are about love and respect, your mom should be able to put aside her feelings and attend.