- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So, I doubt I’m going to have any kind of engagement party at all. Not that I was worried about gifts or anything, but my parents and my FH’s parents have never met. Now, they are being supportive I suppose. My parents and grandparents have offered to pay for the wedding, but I am the only daughter/granddaughter they have. But, my parents don’t seem to thrilled to be meeting FH’s parents. To be honest, my FMIL seems more excited about the ordeal. My parents don’t really like FH, but I’ve been living on my own for quite a while and FH and I support ourselves, so what can they say?
I also doubt that I will have a bridal shower either, just because FH’s mom seems to be the only one who’s excited for anything, and I doubt many of my family would come. None of them are very excited about this either.
My bachelorette party is a maybe. My MOH has talked about wanting to throw me one, even if it is small. Which is fine. I’m not into drinking or being in a bar or anything.
I guess I’m just getting emotional because no one seems to be happy at all, except FH’s mom. I feel my family is offering to pay because they feel obligated since I’m the only daughter and it’s getting to me. Whenever I mention trying on dresses to my mom, she usually brushes it off or tells me she won’t be able to go because my little brother has something going on.
I feel miserable. My excitement of being engaged and marrying the man that I love and can’t imagine my life without is being overshadowed by the fact that no one in my family seems to give a damn one way or the other.
While all of this is going on, I have to deal with a friend of mine gushing about her engagement party and how her family is bending over backwards trying to help her plan her wedding and get everything done. She’s 20, and this will be her second marriage. She married the first guy at 18, divorced him at 19 and started dating her current boyfriend within a few months of her divorce getting finalized.
I’m happy for her, but it really hurts to know that her family is just as excited about her this marriage as they were the first one, and I can’t even get a congrats from my own mom.
I know she’s concerned about things going wrong, but come on, be happy for me. Or at least pretend to be.
I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried talking to her about it, but I don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere. We were supposed to go look at dresses at the end of the month, just to get a feel for everything, but she’s been making a big deal about it. I told her not to worry about it because it wouldn’t be the same if she wasn’t the least bit excited. She said ok, and left it at that. Every now and then she brings up the fact that it wouldn’t hurt to go look, but it never comes through, or she says it in a way that makes me think she means, “You can go look. I don’t want any part of this since you’re not marrying the guy we liked.”
I hope that things will change a littler closer to the time when we need to buy a dress, but it’s depressing. I have to call my FH’s cousin anytime I want to talk about the wedding…If I bring up with my mom, she’ll say “Yeah” or “Ok”, or she’ll change the subject.
I just always figured I’d be doing this with my mom, not everyone but my mom.