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Holy excessive details, Batman! I didn't realize it was so long!! I understand if no one read it :) Haha.
@CarolinaCola: Be prepared for all awkward/annoying questions now. It comes with the ring. Sorry you felt uncomfortable though! I do hope his grandmom does really like you.
@MissPumpkinPie: I thought I was prepared, but the problem was, I didn't prepare for THAT question! Haha. I don't think I've ever been asked that question by anyone!! Haha.
I might have rubbed my tummy and said "nope, this is our wedding present to US".
HA.
but really, @MissPumpkinPie: is right! Awkward questions/comments come with the ring.
@.twist.: Haha! I think his mom might have dropped the turkey had I said that!
@CarolinaCola: Oh, I can imagine. It shocks me with what people come up with.
Aww i did read it! .. But if that was me in your place, I would probably feel as awkward as you. Seems like you will have something to laugh about for some time :)
@CarolinaCola: I've had some awkward conversations with my MIL & DH's Aunt. They both wanted ME (why me???) to TAKE them and help them buy RABBIT's... and not the fluffy, carrot eating, living kind.
@Juliepants: Haha. I'm glad it brought you some joy :)
@.twist.: Soo, I was gonna ask you what kind of rabbits...but then I thought about it, andddd I think I got it. Haha. That is beyond awkward!!
@Eva Peron: Haha. That never would have occurred to me. I don't think it would have worked too well since we live together, and even when we didn't, I'm sure they were aware of our "activities."
i was wondering what was mortifying and then i got to the "use protection" part.... yeah, thanks grandma
@eloping: Yep, "Thanks, grandma!" That's exactly what I was thinking when it happened. Haha.
@.twist.:EEEEEEEEWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!! On the "rabbits". I would have died. Seriously...
@CarolinaCola:ugh this is a regular occurance with my MIL and even....get ready for it...FIL!!! When MIl comes round for a coffee(about once a week) she always asks if Im pregnant,are we using anything,and how she cant wait until we have kids! at first it was so embarassing, a little bit of me would die each time she brought it up. But now I just find it really funny,and in a weird way,she is really supportive,
FIL talks baout it to DH when theyre fishing of all places. Every time they go, he asks if DH is using any protection and if not,why arent I pregnant yet? Lol, DH just answers with "I havent got super sperm Dad" which shuts FIL up pretty quick because then he gets embarassed!
So all in all,it was super duper embarrassing at first,but now it just gets laughed off, so I feel ya
Sorry you had an awkward thanksgiving, I guess you just have to laugh it off with your FI, relatives can be so nosey - especially grandparents who feel they don't need to be polite since they are old enough to get away with it :)
His grandma sounds like my grandma. She would ask the most embarrassing questions and say the most ridiculous things when she was alive. When I was 24 and single she was like " do you have a special lady friend, you should be married right now so I just figured..." my other grandma literally said "WTF is she crazy" . Then I had a boyfriend and she says right infront of him "he's a little short... He must be short in other places" my dad had almost had a heart attack
Ditto to the awkward ring questions or proposal info people request like it's a book at the library, full of intense romantic drama.
FH proposed in a park on a walk. That's pretty much it. He asked. I said yes. I've since learned to make up cutesy details about the day, it rained, then it was sunny blah blah blah, he didn't kneel because it was a mud-fest. I didn't cry because I was expecting it..... :p I must say the whole story sounds better told than if people were actually there.
'His grandma sounds cute, though!
It sort of reminds me of the scene just before the wedding in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the mother comes in and talks about being a lamb in the kitchen and a tiger in the bedroom. For some reason weddings make people say things that just make your mouth hang open.
It's okay though, my FSIL, who is 8 months pregnant, told me at the Thanksgiving dinner table that he "vag is super sore" and that "this always happens" when she walks around too much. I didn't know what in the world to say. The rest of the family just sort of nodded and acted like it was no big deal and I turned 10 shades of red and was at a total loss for words. I love the girl and all and if she wants to have this discussion privatly I am all for it, but I couldn't believe she said it right there with her DH, her brother (my FI), and her parents. I still am speechless.
Lol, I probably wouldn't have even responded.
At SIL's baby shower last weekend, I got no fewer than 6 comments on 'oh you'll be next, better be taking notes' and then oddest of all, while helping put away food - 'oh you're going to be next, you better eat some of that [food]'. Um, what? I'm not super-skinny and YEARS away from having kids!
Gotta love when people think your private business is appropriate for public conversation.......
Oh my goodness. I almost forgot about this thread, but reading through all the new responses made me giggle :)
My FI's grandma has asked me the same thing... only it was the first time he brought me home after we had been dating for a month! So I feel your pain, haha. I did end up getting pregnant a year later so maybe she's just clairvoyant. ;) It gets even worse after you already have a kid.
One time SO's mom asked him how our "physical relationship" was. Thank God I was not there, I probably would have busted out laughing. Previous to that she told him that his younger brother (who is 11 years younger) was an accident. I couldn't look her in the eye for at least a week, and she didn't even say it to my face! lol
Oh my, I would have been mortified! People sure start to loose their filters when it comes to that stuff sometimes. I was actually embarrased by my SO this weekend, when he joked about having a baby to get out of exams. We were standing there in front of his whole family, and all I could respond was "um, not with me you're not!" Awkward turtle!
Hhaha, oh lordy, OP. At least it looks like you're finding favor with Grandma now. LOL.
Mr.ND has an uncle that would ALWAYS ask us one we got engaged if we were 'doing the sex yet?!' 'You making a baby?!' (He's just very loud and crazy/silly, nothing is wrong with him...other than total lack of modesty.) Uhhhh, wtf. Not that I'm telling you about. My goodness, what is it with the older relatives thinking they can ask such random, awkard questions!?
I completely understand where you're coming from. My bf's dad asked him what kind of protection we're using and my bf answered that I was on the pill. THEN, his dad goes "are you sure that's enough? You should use condoms too!" I was mortified, and I wasn't even in the room at the time.
(Sorry, I haven't read all the comments).
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Soooo, what had happened was...
My fiance and I went to his parents' house for Thanksgiving this afternoon. When we got there, everyone was already there (his mom, dad, grandmother, sister, and sister's beau). His dad was outside raking leaves, his mom and grandmother were in the kitchen, and his sister + boyfriend were watching football. So, I went in the kitchen, because that's where I felt most comfortable. Oh, how I wish I would have gone and watched football! First, his mom asked to see my ring, even though she's already seen it since FI showed it to her before he proposed. Then she had me show it to his grandma, who looked at it and looked a bit confused about what to say. She finally said "Ohhh, that's pretty!" but I kind of felt like she was holding back what she really wanted to say. Then she said "So when's the big day?" I told her in a couple years. She comes back with "Oh, so it's more like a promise...?" I just smiled.
Now, a little background of FI's grandma: She's not American, she's Japanese, so there's always been a bit of a language and culture barrier between us. I've always had this sneaking suspicion that she doesn't like me very much, or thinks her grandson can do better. She's never said much of anything to me, other than asking me a question here or there, and we've certainly never had a full-on conversation, which makes the next occurance even stranger...
A little while after I had showed her the ring, his grandma scurries over to me and says "What did he say when he gave you the ring?" I was literally lost for words. The only person I've told what he said is my best friend, because she's the only one I didn't feel weird talking to about such gushy things. So, I was like "Uhhh, he said he loves me and he wants to marry me." which is a gross oversimplification, but I wasn't gonna recite his whole speech for his grandma! Haha. Oh, and by this time, FI had RUN out of the kitchen to not be witness to this awkwardness. Then she said something along the lines of "Oh, that's so nice! I'm surprised!" She meant she was surprised that he would be so sweet because he can be shy (though he's obviously not shy with me), not that she was surprised we were going to get married. Then his mom chimed in and said that they knew we would get married, but now it was sooner. And then his mom said "You know I want some grandkids!" And I gave a very enthusiastic "Ohhhh not yet!" OMG bees, get ready to be horrified...then his grandma turns to me and says "You guys do use protection, right?" Right in the middle of the kitchen, out loud. I. about. died. Seriously, I think my whole body was blushing when she asked me that. All I could really get out was a "Yes." Holy Jesus. It was like top five most awkward moments of my life. BUT, as strange as it seems, after this little convo, I feel like she does actually like me, maybe because I'm officially going to be a member of the family soon.
It was terrible. Haha. Funny, but terrible. When I told FI about it after dinner, he could not stop laughing. I do see the humor in it, but it was so embarrassing!
Did any of you bees experience anything super embarrassing this Thanksgiving?