Post # 1
My mother has been a huge part in planning for the wedding. She has picked out invitations, decorations, the cake, etc. And i Love it! less work for me to do! However, although she has ben a huge part in helping prepare she is quite upset, and feels left out when i showed her my outline for our reception program. Traditionally, the Father gives the speech, and when i asked him to do it, he asked if my step mother (his wife) could give the toast along with him, as she was feeling a bit left out of the planning part. Of course i agreed, and was thrilled that they were going to do it.(as i am as close to her as my own mother)
She feels like since she has been doing so much of the work for the wedding that she deserves to give that speech instead of them. I dont want to hurt anyones feeling, or take the speech from my step mom and dad. How can i Give my mom a role at the reception without taking away my dads???
Post # 3
You could have her give a speech too. Just make a time limit for each of the speeches. You can also mention her directly in the program by giving her a compliment about how much work she has done.
Post # 4
I presented my mom with my bouquet after the speeches at my wedding. The bandleader made an announcement something to the effect of, ‘The bride would now like to present her bouquet to her mother as a token of her love and thanks…’ My mom was very surprised and she loved it. Maybe that would work for you?
Post # 5
Why can’t your mother also give a speech? There is no reason why you can only have one. Both my parents spoke at our wedding.
Post # 6
I think both parents should give a speech especially if they are divorced. I’m sure each has a lot to say to their daughter on her wedding day.
Post # 7
I think that it would be really nice if you offered the option of your mother giving a speech, leading a blessing, etc as well
good luck! 🙂
Post # 8
They should both be giving speeches!
Post # 9
I’m gonna jump on the bandwagon 🙂 I say they both get speeches!
Post # 10
My parents are divorced and my dad has paid for 80% of our wedding, my mom does not have the money to contribute at all. So obviously my dad is saying the main speech as he is sort of the host of the wedding. And because I wanted to include my mom, I asked her if she would like to say the Grace for dinner. She said she is honoured and would love to, but now when I sent the programme for the evening she mentioned she was still hoping to say a short speech and could she do it before Grace. But I just feel that there are enough speeches and I just don’t see the point. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but she must also understand that this is not about what she wants to say in front of people, she can also just tell us what she wants to say, personally. I have already stepped on toes with this wedding by having to be careful how much say my mom has because she has not paid for anything whatsoever. How do I tell her that we just want her to say Grace and leave it at that? I mean it sounds silly to tell her “No, only say Grace and nothing more” but I just know it’s not going to go down well and people will be tired of hearing speeches (oh and she’s not a strong public speaker either). My mom also has a tendancy to speak before thinking and I’m nervous she will say something that won’t go down well with my dad and step mom so I just don’t see the point