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WOW thats rude of her. There is nothing wrong with a simple wedding dress. If it fits you, if you love it, and it looks good - No problem! Different people have different tastes and that was incredibly rude of her.
Wow that is definitely rude! If you love it, that's all that matters. If you are feeling really insecure about it, ask some of your closest girlfriends their opinions and discuss it, but really-if you love how it looks and how it makes you feel, forget your FMIL!
That's disappointing! However, I would not worry. It's her who put her foot in her mouth. She's going to eat her words on your wedding day when you look gorgeous in your dress, especially when your hair and makeup and accessories and flowers are all in the game.
do you like her style? if you don't admire her style take it as a compliment!
I haven't gotten my dress yet, but I can tell you that I will probably get a bad reaction from my own mother. I'm expecting it.
When she shops for me, she says "Well, i thought it was pretty hideous, so I knew you would love it".
As long as you love it and feel great, don't let the haters get ya down!
She's already had her chance to pick out a dress that she likes...at her own wedding. Go with what you like, that's what matters.
I like vistagirl's thought! I've got to keep that in mind when dealing with my MIL!
I would just brush it off for now. My MOH is kind of a 'hater' and openly puts down my style. You know what you like & I'm sure your dress is fab. Don't let others get you down.
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Wow. Definitely not a class act.
She's rude. No manners. Who cares what she thinks. You obviously thought it was lovely enough to buy! She probably just made the comment b/c she secretly wants you in some gaudy sparkly crazy dress anyways. Moms don't seem to get the simpler dresses are sometimes the way to go, depending on the bride.
My Fi's cousin wanted a simple dress (she's a simple kind of girl so anything sparkly would be uncharacteristic) and her mom kept crabbing about how she needed a sparklier dress, etc etc.
It's what YOU want ultimately. I agree with everyone else about not letting the haters get you down. Plus, there will always be *someone* out there who doesn't love your dress unfortunately.
I fully expect this reaction from my FMIL, but I love my dress and feel beautiful in it and if you love your dress the same way, it doesn't matter how anyone else feels about it. It seems like some of the older generation has a hard time embracing a wedding dress that isn't super fluffy and ultra-beaded. Just chalk it up to that and don't worry.
The same thing happened with me except I made the mistake of taking her to see it. I had already purchased it but since I hadn't included her when I did she wanted to see me in it. I tried it on and she went along with what my future brother in law's girlfriend said. She goes along with everything she says so therefore she started saying terrible things. I told my FI what his mom had said and he told me not to listen to her because he knows I will look beautiful in whatever I chose. Don't listen to her and just think of how beautiful you are going to look walking towards your FI. : )
It's your wedding not hers. If you love your dress that's the most important thing.
it wasn't until i started planning my wedding that i really started to care about what other people thought. why?? what has happened to me?? i have totally worried about every little detail and really - it is so silly to worry that other people won't like your vision. you are wonderful, and your your dress, your menu, invitations, etc. will be wonderful too.
just ignore your FMIL. as long as you love your dress - you will be fabulous!
i will never understand why people are insensitive and rude - and guess what? it doesn't matter. dance to the beat of your own drummer!
Don't let her opinion bother you! It's your day and the most important thing is that YOU love your dress! FWIW, I'm convinced my FMIL doesn't like my dress either because she keeps calling it "very different" and "very interesting" (which seem to be her way of putting things down). I LOVE the dress, so I decided not to let her "rain on my parade".
Thanks everyone for your comments. They are really helpful. To make matters worse, my fsil the one who was there and convinced me to get this one, told me that she changed her mind and she doesn't like the dress anymore. I don't know why I should care, but all of a sudden I do. I almost feel like I will disappoint a lot of people with my dress, because everyone ( and I mean everyone) keep saying " I can't wait to see your dress, I know it will be spectacular. I feel like my dress is going to be a big let down.
If she says anything else about not liking it, you should tell her, "That's cool - I don't expect YOU to wear it."
The same exact thing happend to me...and I personallly don't care what my
FMIL thinks...she's had her wedding. Don't let her ruin your dream dress or wedding...it's not worth the hassle. I'm sure you'll look beautiful!!! Besides, the only opinion that matters when it comes to your wedding is that of you and your fiance!
Ohmygod, I wouldn't worry even a little bit what a woman 30 years your senior thinks about your dress. Maybe you should browse one of her old wedding albums and drink in whatever she wore to her wedding -probably not the most breathtaking get up.
Wow, that's awkward (for her). But I echo the other bees here - as long as you love it, don't worry about it! There will always be different opinions about *every* aspect of your wedding, as I've quickly learned. As long as you're happy with your dress, pay her no mind. 
Aww. sweety! I would be disappointed too. But as much as she said that-- she is seeing you without make up on, without (if you are going to) the veil on, and without your jewlry and bouquet-- which is needless to say... Part of the whole ensemble.
PLUS you will be glowing that day, radiating with a smile that will fit the picture. So I wouldn't really take what she said too seriously. she is only seeing HALF the picture!
Don't be bummed. I know you will look gorgeous! And so will your FH.
(((HUGS))
Everyone has different taste when it comes to wedding dresses. What she may like may not be what you may like, but long as you like the dress, that's all that matters.
Don't take it personally. We all have different taste when it comes to everything. She just may be the type that's straightforward.
My mom and co-workers don't like the flowers I want to pick for the day of the wedding nor do they have the same taste I do on everyday clothing. But what matters is that I like what I like and not what they like because it's going to be my day and I'm not really there to impress them.
So don't worry about it. Just have fun and enjoy the planning process.
i would say, its your wedding, wear what you like....
but i can totally understand how you feel, because my own mother hates my dress! i caved in and is one of the reasons why i bought another dress.
She got married in 09, but yeah hopefully she did wear the dress she loved...
I hate showing the dress picture to people because *I* love it, and I never get the reaction that I'm expecting. Granted, it's so tactless and rude to flat out say you don't like someone's dress, but the point is- you simply can't worry about what other people think about your dress. I'm sure you've been to weddings or see pictures of girls in dresses that you don't care for, and it's ok. Everyone has a different style. What matters is that you love it and feel great in it.
I'm glad you and your FMIL have a good relationship... because that was wack! She already had her chance to pick her dress. Now it's your turn!!
haha didn't notice its from 09!!!
MissTaken -- at one point i just went dress shopping alone..
It is hurtful, even though they shouldn't be saying anything at all. I showed my future grandmother in law a picture of my dress (also mermaid, simple but wearing a crystal belt at the waist for some bling) "ohh i would never wear a belt with a dress like that, it would make your waist look thick" I was pissed as hell. I am currently storing my dress at her house, and she mentioned the other day that she still hasn't seen it, she hasn't peeked. I was going to go try it on, but then remembered that incident and decided her and FMIL will not see me in the dress until the wedding day. I don't want any unwanted opinions, and the snarky comments only hurt the relationship.
As hard as it is, I say try to take the high road on this one, you picked it for a reason and you will look gorgeous.
I know this thread is from 2 years ago, but can I say that I thought that the SIL was more in the wrong? She should have been more discrete with sharing her mother's opinion with the bride.
How many times have we seen something on someone and thought it was ugly? LOTS. Even at weddings.
The MIL is entitled to her opinion, but the daughter should have known to keep it to herself.
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My mother in law saw a picture of me in my wedding dress that her daughter took. My dress is very simple mermaid style.
She told her that she thought it was ugly. Then last night, when I went to her house she was a little tipsy and said that it was too simple.
Don't get me wrong, we have a great relationship, but I can't help but be a bit disappointed.