Post # 1
My mother in law saw a picture of me in my wedding dress that her daughter took. My dress is very simple mermaid style.
She told her that she thought it was ugly. Then last night, when I went to her house she was a little tipsy and said that it was too simple.
Don’t get me wrong, we have a great relationship, but I can’t help but be a bit disappointed.
Post # 3
WOW thats rude of her. There is nothing wrong with a simple wedding dress. If it fits you, if you love it, and it looks good – No problem! Different people have different tastes and that was incredibly rude of her.
Post # 4
Wow that is definitely rude! If you love it, that’s all that matters. If you are feeling really insecure about it, ask some of your closest girlfriends their opinions and discuss it, but really-if you love how it looks and how it makes you feel, forget your FMIL!
Post # 5
Who cares what she says….if you love it that’s what matters!
Post # 6
That’s disappointing! However, I would not worry. It’s her who put her foot in her mouth. She’s going to eat her words on your wedding day when you look gorgeous in your dress, especially when your hair and makeup and accessories and flowers are all in the game.
Post # 7
do you like her style? if you don’t admire her style take it as a compliment!
Post # 8
I haven’t gotten my dress yet, but I can tell you that I will probably get a bad reaction from my own mother. I’m expecting it.
When she shops for me, she says "Well, i thought it was pretty hideous, so I knew you would love it".
As long as you love it and feel great, don’t let the haters get ya down!
Post # 9
She’s already had her chance to pick out a dress that she likes…at her own wedding. Go with what you like, that’s what matters.
Post # 10
I like vistagirl’s thought! I’ve got to keep that in mind when dealing with my MIL!
Post # 11
I would just brush it off for now. My MOH is kind of a ‘hater’ and openly puts down my style. You know what you like & I’m sure your dress is fab. Don’t let others get you down.
Post # 12
Wow. Definitely not a class act.
She’s rude. No manners. Who cares what she thinks. You obviously thought it was lovely enough to buy! She probably just made the comment b/c she secretly wants you in some gaudy sparkly crazy dress anyways. Moms don’t seem to get the simpler dresses are sometimes the way to go, depending on the bride.
My Fi’s cousin wanted a simple dress (she’s a simple kind of girl so anything sparkly would be uncharacteristic) and her mom kept crabbing about how she needed a sparklier dress, etc etc.
It’s what YOU want ultimately. I agree with everyone else about not letting the haters get you down. Plus, there will always be *someone* out there who doesn’t love your dress unfortunately.
Post # 13
I fully expect this reaction from my FMIL, but I love my dress and feel beautiful in it and if you love your dress the same way, it doesn’t matter how anyone else feels about it. It seems like some of the older generation has a hard time embracing a wedding dress that isn’t super fluffy and ultra-beaded. Just chalk it up to that and don’t worry.
Post # 14
The same thing happened with me except I made the mistake of taking her to see it. I had already purchased it but since I hadn’t included her when I did she wanted to see me in it. I tried it on and she went along with what my future brother in law’s girlfriend said. She goes along with everything she says so therefore she started saying terrible things. I told my FI what his mom had said and he told me not to listen to her because he knows I will look beautiful in whatever I chose. Don’t listen to her and just think of how beautiful you are going to look walking towards your FI. : )
Post # 15
It’s your wedding not hers. If you love your dress that’s the most important thing.
Post # 16
it wasn’t until i started planning my wedding that i really started to care about what other people thought. why?? what has happened to me?? i have totally worried about every little detail and really – it is so silly to worry that other people won’t like your vision. you are wonderful, and your your dress, your menu, invitations, etc. will be wonderful too.
just ignore your FMIL. as long as you love your dress – you will be fabulous!
i will never understand why people are insensitive and rude – and guess what? it doesn’t matter. dance to the beat of your own drummer!