- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So, my parent’s have been divorced for 15 years… Longer than they were married. Without going into too much detail, my father had sole custody of me and my 2 younger brothers, while my mom went off the deep end. From the time I was 11 until now, I have not had a mother figure. Even now, we talk, but I have no respect for the decisions she made in her life.
So, in this 15 year time frame, my father has moved on, dated, re-married, been divorced again, and has now started dating a nice woman again, for the first time since his 2nd divorce.
Well, my mom has done nothing in the past 15 years but bitch about my dad’s romantic life. They were on good terms again since his last marriage ended, but now she’s gone crazy again. And I can’t handle her.
Since my mother was not a part of my life for such a long time, she will not be in your typical MOB-type role. She is being invited. Her name does not appear on the invitation (she’s not paying for anything. In fact, I am stuck buying her a dress just so she doesn’t look homeless). She will not be walking down the aisle, with me getting ready, or getting any sort of special recognition for her lack of a role in my upbringing.
My father and I on the other hand, are extremely close. Like I said, he raised my brothers and I through middle school/high school college. He will walk me down the aisle, we will dance, and he gets the recognition since as far as I’m concerned he is my only parent. I want him to be happy. I want him to be able to bring his girlfriend to my wedding. I want my mother to either not be a crazy person, or not come at all.
I don’t really know why I wrote this. I’m just frustrated, FI doesn’t like to get involved in the dynamic between my mother and I because I think it upsets him. I just don’t know what to do.