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I don't think you are obligated to invite her friends since you are paying for the wedding yourself. Obviously it would be a nice gesture if it was within your budget, but it doesn't look that way. Something seems a little off, it's pretty over-dramatic to fire you and not speak to you about the wedding just over this.
I'm so sorry that this is going on. It can't be helpful on top of planning a wedding. You're not obligated to invite her friends, and it's up to your discretion to fit them in where you can. Maybe that can be something you talk to her about - now that you're not employed, there is even less room for financial adjustments for her friends.
I'm kind of concerned that you would be fired by your mom for something to do with your wedding, and it's likely that you should speak to her about those items separately.
My mom also stopped speaking to me for a while during wedding planning (all because I refused to tell her how much we paid for catering although we paid for it ourselves and she had no part of it). It sucks but I think that it is not that uncommon for moms to do this. I don't know why but weddings make moms crazy! I know it hurts but try not to worry too much about it. Clearly you are right on this issue and she might just need some time to realize she was wrong. Hugs!
When is your wedding? Based on this and the other post about your sister it sounds like your family can be really volatile and really harsh with you. I think you should step back for a couple of days and try talking to your mother again calmly, if you have enough time. I'm sorry you have to go through this!
Your mother should be the one apologizing not you . You and your fi are paying for the wedding yourselves , if she wanted these extra pple then she should contribute to them . The fact that shes acting like this ,just tells me shes being immature ..You need to give her time and think about what she did ..Let her think about it , don't push or pressure her..just wait it out ..
My wedding is May 29th , 2010, my family sucks so much right now, not talking to my older brother either, before the mama drama, she promised to purchase my dress for me, and now she's not anymore so my older brother offered to get it for me if she didnt, soooooo when she fired me i gave him a call and he said it was stupid of me to have a wedding when i cant afford my dress, which isnt true at all! He OFFERED to buy it for me then when it came down to it he punked out! My mother will never apologize to me, ever! Even if she knows she's wrong, i just want to be the bigger person all the time and give in to them but apparently they can give a crap, oh well, at least my fiance and I are in love and are going to have a beautiful wedding regardless of the family drama, i just wish they werent so damn selfish
BTW, my mother is suppose to walk me down the aisle too, my father had passed away when i was 3, hopefully she will come through
she sounds conntrrolllingggggg. You're better off finding a new job anyway. Get that all settled up and then talk to her about wedding stuff again. And don't invite her friends unless she comes to you and apologizes, sincerely, without any prompting from you. I applaud your positive attitude b/c I would be much more angry!
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It kind of stinks that my mother owns a business that I have worked for for 8 yrs, then she decided to fire me a couple of weeks ago over something so dumb especially when she knows i need money since me and my fiance are paying for our own wedding. We are on a very tight budget so when I made my guest list I had a 'priority' list and a list B. The priority list is obviously family first and I was going to send out invites 90 days ahead instead of the usual 60 just to see who would be able to make it and who cant that way I can send out my second batch on the 60 day mark to those on my B list. My mother wanted to invited some friends and I told her that I will see what I can do because we have to cut alot of expenses. We got into a big fight about the whole thing and she fired me, now we dont even talk to each other like we use to and she said she wants nothing to do with the wedding or ever hear about it again! It makes me very sad because this is a very important time in my life that i want to share with her, what can i do besides apologizing which i already did and send her emails but got no response, called her but she doesnt pick up..i can see if she was helping me pay for the wedding she has the right to be upset but she isnt, am i suppose to be obligated to invite her friends?