- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am ready to scream!!!
I am stuck living at home for more reasons than I care to get into right now. My mom is on disability (she has kidney disease and goes for dialysis 3 days a week) so she’s home almost all the time. And I recently lost my job so now I’M home all the time.
Very recently I realized that she treats me like a 5-year old. She wants to tickle me or play with my hair, she wants to poke me or give me noogies like my grandfather did when I was 8.
If I’m cooking or doing the dishes, she just has to come over and help — and not in a constructive way. She askes “why are you doing it that way?” or “you should do this instead.” She even goes so far as to rearrange the dishes in the dishwasher just because that’s the way SHE likes to do it.
The worst part is that I am realizing that she’s been this way my entire life — treating me like a baby — and that is why I am so afraid of everything new and why I don’t have a lot of confidence when it comes to making adult decisions.
She can NOT understand why I get mad when she does/says these things.
I feel bad because I know she’s dealing with a lot because of her health, and I appreciate that she wants to spend time with me before I move out and get married but GOOD GOD can we be adults?!?!?
I’ve tried doing adult things with her — helping with grocery shopping, going to lunch, etc., but even then she treats me like a child and I. CAN’T. STAND.IT.
I don’t know what else to do or say. I love my mom to death and I am really proud of her for being so strong and independent through her health issues over the last several years but ….. at the same time I can’t stand to be around her.
I don’t know what the HELL to do. Her babying me is actually pushing us apart.
EFF. This BLOWS.