Post # 1
So pretty much every time we talk about my dress (which she saw in person for the first time on Wednesday) she asks about alterations and then says – ‘well, most brides lose weight so don’t get them done too soon’ and it’s the tone in which she says it as if she is implying that I NEED to lose weight for the dress to look good. (i actually snapped at her on wednesday ‘are you trying to tell me something mom?’) Yes, ideally, it would be nice to be a little smaller, but I’m pretty good with where I am at the moment. I’m never going to look like i did in high school (and I don’t want to, i was WAY too skinny) but I’m quite content with my curves, and would be quite okay walking down the aisle not losing a pound (although, my arms do need some seious toning). It just really really annoys me. Rant over. Here’s me, in my dress (Im’ 5’4 and 155 if it helps) this is the one that’s a size too small, the one I have needs to be taken in at the bust and let out a little in the hip.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
I don’t think your mom means any harm. Sometimes moms just say things that drive us crazy inside even though it’s a little irrational. I think you look gorgeous in that dress and have a great bod and I’m sure she feel the same way!
My mom is the same way – sometimes she just says stuff that comes off judgy. She is very thin (and I am not so much) and a retired dietician, so anything she says about food or weight bugs me a little.
Post # 4
@lucygirl1: my mom is always like this though. My sister was heavy in Jr. High and she always made comments to her about her weight and ‘do you really want to eat that dear’ and stupid passive agressive comments (she’s a very passive agressive person). Now that I’m not 115 pounds anymore she always implies that I’m fat (and has asked me on more than one occasion if I’ve put on weight).
Post # 5
@MsGinkgo: I think the dress looks great!! Don’t worry about your mom’s comments (hard as that may be) – moms seem to go a little nutso when their daughters get married. I am also 5’4″ and my weight has yo-yo-ed a lot throughout the years and I wish I had looked as good as you do at 155. Own those curves, girl!
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: Tell her what I told my mom – any weight talk is forbidden, and will get her kicked out. My mom behaves admirably, now that she realizes I’m serious. The only hard thing about this is follow-thru, of course, but putting up boundaries in smaller conversations is easier, and might prevent you needing to enforce them in bigger ones (aka, when you’re looking wedding dresses).
Oh, and you look amazing in that dress!