- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So the day i have been waiting for since forever is two months away and the joy i once felt is now just stress and depression. My fiance and I got engaged on the 1st of Jan and then soon found out we were expecting our first lil angel. So we pushed our wedding plans up and so got the plans out. Due to the fact that i have no medical aid we would obviously have to pay for our Gynae visits and the delivery of Baby which comes to a huge amount, so every bit of spare cash goes towards our angel. We didnt want a wedding so soon my fiance and i decided that we wanted to get married after the baby but my mother insisted on a wedding, after much arguing we decided we shoudl have the wedding, his family are doing 75 percent of the wedding and my mom the rest. She now feels like this wedding is hers and that she should do everything her way, inc the dress which she chose without even asking me, she also says that the guest list should be her choice leaving out all my friends and having only her family members, she turns everything around and plays the innocent tortured single mother, she has everyone thinking that i am against her and the plans. When i told her that this is my wedding and i want this and that to be done the way i say she said you will shut up and sit at the wedding and just accept what is infront of you and then she tells me she will not come to the wedding other wise. My fiance and i are going to my hometown this weekend and i am seriously scared as to what teh outcome maybe as my mother has everyone thinking she is wounded, im stressing and always crying. This has caused problems in my home and my fiance and i have been fighting ever since. I feel like this pressure is too much and i am worried about the health of my baby. As this stage i have no one to talk to or confide in. Do i cancel the wedding and focus on the health of my baby and fix my relationship with my fiance?