(Closed) My Mother Is Mourning My Impending Engagement/Marriage

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you are having problems.  Maybe she is just sad that you are going to be officially leaving her and your father (even if she didn’t have a close relationship with you, I’m sure that she bonded with you as a mother).  I don’t really have any advice on how to deal with this though.

Post # 4
Member
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If I had to guess, I would say it sounds like she was really enjoying developing a relationship with you and is now afraid of losing you again.  If that’s the case, making a point to contact her and talk or hang out like you used to might help.  Try and minimize the talk of weddings and moving though.  She’s probably having a hard time processing it as the reality of what it means (or what she thinks it will mean) sinks in.

Post # 5
Member
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry, that’s very difficult. I can totally relate but for an opposite reason. My mother and I were VERY close growing up and she saw me getting engaged as not loving her anymore. It’s taken us awhile to get to a place where she’s realized that there’s enough love for everyone but she still has her moments. I’m betting she’s coming to terms with the fact that you’re growing apart and her distancing herself is her way of protecting herself and getting used to the changes. Good luck and be patient, it can be tough for a mother when her daughter gets married. Maybe if it continues try talking with her about it? Maybe go out to lunch with her or something just the two of you and try to feel her out.

Post # 6
Member
3302 posts
Sugar bee

Awww I hope she is able to get past this soon for you and your honey.

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