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posted 2 years ago in Family
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    Busy bee
    lolaj       Queens, NY

    Ok, so the BF and I went ring shopping and got the ring and all that. I'm not engaged yet though. Who knows when he is planning on proposing but anyway, I didnt tell anyone that we went ring shopping just my mother and now she is completely taking over this whole "wedding". We aren't even having a traditional wedding we just want to go to city hall then go on a GREAT honeymoon. My mother even ordered things like decorations and a DRESS!!!!!!

    I've told her that we want to go to city hall but it's like she is not listening.
    I dont want to hurt her feelings so can you bees give me advice on how to tell her to STOP what she is doing??

     
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    Buzzing bee
    texasmeredith      

    You just need to sit down with her and explain you are glad she is excited, but you and soon to be FI have already discussed what type of wedding you want, and it does not include the decorations or dress she has picked out. 

    If you don't nip this in the bud now, its only going to get MUCH worse. 

     
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    FMILady    June 6, 2010   Texas

    Funny- and I'm so sorry.  Tell her she can throw you a party and use her dress and decorations there, but it's the courthouse all the way for you.

     
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    lilybay    October 2, 2010  

    My mom was kind of the same way - two days after we got engaged, she started calling reception venues after I had specifically asked her not to.  I had a little chat with her and told her that I really wanted her to be involved, but to please wait for me to take the lead.  She totally understood and actually felt really bad.  No hard feelings and she's been a big help ever since.

    So definitely talk to your mom.  I think she's just really excited for you!  Sometimes I joke that my mom is more excited for this wedding than I am.  :)

     

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