My mother just called me a Bridezilla

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sounds like she’s being a Momzilla

Post # 4
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ajillity81:  Your Mom has obviously never met a real bridezilla.

Post # 5
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It sounds like you may have a momzilla and when you disagree or she doesn’t get her way, she freaks out.  See if you can find a momzilla episode to sneak into the episodes you watch together.

Post # 10
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like my mom – classic momzilla, who called me a bridezilla every chance she got! Not sure how you can be a bridezilla by yessing your mother to death and not saying a word when you didn’t like something, but apparently I was able to accomplish that! 

Try not to take it to heart, it’s not worth trying to prove to her that you aren’t.  Most importantly, try not to let it ruin the experience for you.  My wedding planning was not a fun process for the most part. Once it’s over you don’t really even care but I would have enjoyed the last year of my life more had planning gone smoother. Honestly, the uplights and other little details you’ll fight with her over aren’t worth the fight and you won’t even notice the day of or really even care the second the wedding is over.  

Post # 11
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

IMO, she’s being a momzilla. My Mom has definitely had her own momzilla moments – so I can empathize!

Post # 12
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

All I can say is I feel ya.  My mom is an event planner.  She wants her hands on everything.

Last week I was at hhothouse, about to hop in the truck and leave.  We had been taing about accent colors and as says ” You really need to get swatches of those. I really want to get started making my bows.”

I have never said I wanted bows for ANYTHat this this point.  I had to kindly remind her this is OUR wedding, hers.  We are paying for 75%, she is contributing about 25%….a little here, a little there.

And I feeto like I have to check in with her for EVERYTHNG.  It’s embarrassing and fiancé and I love a venue, and when we stand to leave then meeting, I accidentally say ” well I better call my mom before I put a deposit down!”  We would never choose an outrageous venue, and without being a bridezilla… is OUR wedding.  Not hers.

At my sisters wedding, it was small and everyone knew my mom.  But if you hadn’t, you would have never known she was the mother of the bride….she was more the event planner!!

I appreciate her help, but wish she would tone it down!


I have no advice,you cannot fix a mothers input on a wedding….they just won’t stop!!

Post # 13
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@ajillity81:  Eh. Sounds like mom heard a “buzzword” the youngins were using and decided she’d be in-the-know. Definitely sounds like she’s the one being a ‘zilla. I can totally see why you’re hurt but try to brush it off. She’s being a idiot. 

Post # 14
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh.  Annoying.  Obviously you aren’t being one.  FI called me a bridezilla when the RSVP arrived for the invited parents plus their uninvited kids… I kinda freaked out about it, but certainly not to a bridezilla level.  But him calling me that made me madder, thus, in his mind, proving his point.  lol.

Post # 15
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014



Sorry she is being so difficlut.  Just keep smiling — your wedding is about you and your FI, so keep your mind there.

Post # 16
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She clearly has NO idea what a bridezilla is. Her definition sounds like “If you disagree with me, you’re a bridezilla.”



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