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My mother just ruined the surprise. I am going back to Boston for Christmas and SO wasn’t going to come – for a few reasons. Well my mother just called and said that he booked a red-eye flight to come to Boston to propose on Christmas morning. I can’t believe that she did this! I am furious!
Wow! Mom's a little excited much? Maybe it's just a decoy. Have you talked to your SO yet?
She thought that I would want to know................I am not going to tell him. He would be really upset if he knew =(
I'd be livid. It's not her place to ruin his surprise. I'd call her and let her know that....i mean, SERIOUSLY?! Who does that?!
Awwww.... it sucks that the surprise was ruined but your mom is probably super-excited and since I generally HATE surprises, I can see my mom thinking she was being helpful by telling me. Super exciting though!!
maybe it's a trick and it's coming this weekend instead? here's hoping! otherwise, don't be too bummed. i found out a lot of stuff i wasn't supposed to know beforehand and it didn't take away from the moment.
AWWW...bummer! But hey, at least he's proposing right?!
I know that totally ruined the surprise though :( I mean, I know she must be excited, but she should have thought before she told you!
Awe - that sucks!!!!!!
If you tell him he might change the plans a bit and even if you don't it will still be perfect!
oh NO! I'm sorry she ruined the surprise aspect of it. You're still getting engaged, though!
Im so sorry your surprise was ruined :( I also wouldnt let him know you know.
I made a point to tell my dad that when my DH asked him permission NOT to tell my mom, not because she would tell me but because I would know just be talking to her something was up.
It sucks that he already bought his ticket, I probably wouldn't tell him you know unless it will really be hard not to since he would most like want to change his plans then and changing a plane ticket can be very expensive...
I agree, your mom should not have done that, very unfair of her and definitely ruined the surprise element of the proposal...But I was say, the proposal will be AMAZING even if it's not a surprise, and it's so sweet that he went to all this effort to make your proposal so special...That's definitely a cheering-up thought, as is the thought that you will be engaged in (fingers crossed) one month!
{{{HUGS}}}
I'm so sorry she ruined the surprise!!! :( It might not be a bad idea to talk to him about it, though. As much as it might upset him, I'm sure that in the long run he'd rather give you a proposal that surprises you and makes you happy than one that might make you upset because it reminds you that the surprise was blown.
OR maybe he's throwing HER the red herring, knowing she'd tell you?
Either way, even if you know where and on what day, you still don't know HOW he's going to do it, so at least there will be something of a surprise, and it will still be exciting to make it official!
Hah! I would actually WANT my mom to ruin it for me. I like to know and she knows I like to know 
She was good though - she knew a few days before I did and she later told me it as my DAD who had trouble holding on to the secret!
Oh my! I'm so sorry you had to go through that! I'm sure that your heart sank...
But look on the bright side...you're getting engaged!
Try not to be furious, enjoy the anticipation! It's a very exciting time for you!
Sincerily,
The queen of finding the silver lining
My FI is constantly trying to surprise me. If I even mention flowers, he'll try and throw me off the scent. Maybe mom will tell him and something different will happen. It definitely sounds like you are getting engaged, and soon! But the future is still the future, it's never set. Just be careful. I would be worried that I'd get my hopes up and that if nothing happened that weekend, I'd be even more bummed! What a wild story.
How did she let it slip?
this happened to my college roomie...her mom called her RIGHT after he asked for her hand...but he hadn't asked my roomie yet...the mom is all "let's start planning!" ugh! She had already picked out her ring, so the "when" was the only surprise left...boo!
oh man. I would be LIVID! I can't blame for your frustration, so just get it out.
Then you can think about what a sweet gesture it is, and the fact that you're getting engaged one month from today!
Here's the question: are you going to tell your fiance you know, or feign surprise?
what a bummer but i'm sure you'll still be excited about the proposal.
this is what i'm worried about with my dad. he can't keep a secret to save his life!
i hate surprises.. so i would be glad that i knew ^_^ sorry that your mom ruined it but now you know and knowing is half the battle. hehe.
Oh nooo that sucks!! :S ((HUGS))
I think I'd be really mad too-- I love surprises, so I'm feeling your frustration! Anyway, I agree with what's been said, his proposal will be exciting no matter what! I'd give it a couple of days before deciding whether to tell him or not, just to be safe that he's not being incredible sneaky.
Well Im sorry she ruined it...but hey your getting engaged!! COngrats! :)
I would be really upset... but I love surprises. All you can do is have it out with her and then move on. You still don't know the details and it will still be completely memorable... so hold on to that.
Hug.
I'd be incredily excited and happy... And tease my mom mercifully for the next month letting her know his boss dropped a huge project and he had to cancel the trip...
Oh, what Crebre said! lol. That's a good one! Haha. Early Congrats!
Aw man. It's ok, you're getting engaged!!! Or perhaps your SO will find out and surprise you on another date!
Maybe it really is a decoy, though...my parents and sister pulled a decoy date on me! And I was TOTALLY shocked when I got engaged more than a month before they had told me it was going to be!
Oh, I'm so sorry! I would be so angry. I hope your engagement will still be wonderful and memorable if not as surprising - in fact I'm sure it will be.
Agh, my mom does stuff like this ALL THE TIME!!! She was really bothered when she found out a lot of people about the upcoming proposal except her and FI told her point blank he couldn't tell her because she'd blow it, which is SO TRUE, lol.. I'm sorry this happened to you.. maybe it is a decoy? Well, now you can make sure you have your camera and look great.. moms do this crap because she probably thought you would want to know!
Ugh, sorry the surprise was spoiled! :( I actually suspected that my husband was going to propose on a trip we were taking. As I was leaving, my sister said "Next time I see you, you'll be engaged!" Turns out my husband had told her that day that he was going to propose on our vacation! I was really upset and disappointed that she spoiled the surprise. However, I will say that even though I knew the proposal was coming, it was still really special and sweet. I guess I didn't know the exact timing, so that was a bit of a surprise.
It's a total bummer, but it's still something to look forward to.
My dad messed up and told me too! But you NEVER know, she could totally be messing with you! How exciting! Please keep us updated! :)
PS The suprise wasn't all ruined, because I bet you were suprised today! ;) That is how I look back on it atleast!
My bf's mama told me that he was planning on proposing for Christmas. But I was kinda happy when she told me, I guess because she didn't give me any concrete details.
That.
Stinks.
Seriously, I am so, so annoyed with your mom. That would have been the BEST surprise ever. But at least you still get to see him on Christmas, and you'll get engaged! That's so exciting!
I would be so mad! I would have started crying immediately! I hate it when surprises get ruined! I, myself don't like surprises, but I would be heartbroken if my mom told me when BF was gonna propose! Just try and relax and go with the flow...and hope that she was just saying that to throw you off!
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