(Closed) My mum is getting married 2 weeks after me

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i can totally hear that it is a frustrating situation for you to deal with… do they have any reasons for refusing to change the date? if it’s really not a possibility… put your best bride face on and don’t let their stubbornness ruin what will be an amazing time in your life!!!!!

 

Post # 4
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3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yikes. I’m sorry to hear this.  Why have they refused?  I find it a little odd that she has to ‘do’ life’s major moments so close to yours.  It’s kind of like stealing your thunder.

Post # 5
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think your mother can still be the mother of the bride and have her own wedding. You get one day; she gets one day. That’s it. I get that it’s frustrating…but why should she have to put her life on hold for your wedding? No offense. It’d be different if she were getting married on the same day as you (or the day before or something) but she’s not, so why bother getting pissed?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i agree that it’s annoying but if they refuse to change it, i think the best plan is to accept it and enjoy getting to plan your weddings together. if the situation can’t be changed, then at least make the most of the situation and don’t let it ruin your wedding!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Statutory Grape: I don’t think she’s meaning that her mom is overshadowing her whole day, but is overshadowing the whole wedding experience. Her mom should be focused on being the mother of the bride instead of focusing so much on her own wedding. Given they’ve been together 16 years…asking for a year or at least a couple months in between is not asking her to put her life on hold. no offense

 

 

 

@carol28: I will echo what some of the other bees said, if she can’t give you a good reason for the date to be moved, it’s being really insensitive. Maybe asking her just to be a couple months ahead or behind would be good? I think if you told her how important the whole process was to you, and that you just want her to be the MOB and focus on that for the next 8 months. And once your wedding is over, you and her can focus on her wedding so that you each have the special time with one another, and have time to focus on each event equally.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@divergirl: I think asking for even a few months is sort of unreasonable…the wedding experience is one day. Then life goes on and you’re married…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@carol28: True, it takes months of planning, but for all intents and purposes the experience is over after the wedding itself. Her wedding is after yours, so why would it detract from your experience overall?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Statutory Grape: Again, she’s not talking just about the wedding day…She’s talking about the whole experience of planning and building up before the wedding day.

 

This is why I don’t see asking her to move her wedding day by a couple months as putting her life on hold… they have been together 16 years… that’s 192 months. Assuming she got married right now… if she were to move her date by 3 months that’s only 1.56% of their whole relationship (it will actually be less since they wll have been together longer by the time they get married) So in a nutshell they’ve waited 16 years…what is another 3 months in order to allow your daughter the bride to be experience and attention she deserves.

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