Post # 1
Yesterday on my only day off SO took me to the beach where we had one of our first dates. I found out that he bought my ring about two weeks ago, because my mum saw him at the jewellers. I did not expect that he would have proposed yesterday, mostly because it would have seemed too predictable and I know he is keeping it as a suprise because he wants to be thoughtful (which I am happy about, he has a kind heart).
Mum kept questioning me all week about this date to the beach and blurted out that he will mostly likely be proposing because she knew about the ring. I kept telling her I didn’t want to discuss it as it is supposed to be a suprise but every single morning she would ask if my SO had given any hints.
She even went as far as to calling him and asking him to stay for dinner last night while we were on our day out because she was expecting him to have proposed.
After SO left last night, mum asked me where my ring was. I told her I knew he wouldn’t have done it so soon and that I would like her to back off a bit because this is supposed to be a special time for us. She got offended and annoyed, and later that night I heard her telling my father that he should ring my SO and try to suss details out of him.
I feel so sad about it. We have only been together for 2.5 years so it isn’t like we’ve been together forever and that my mum is impatiently waiting for grand children. I’m not going to give up telling her to back off and I am keeping her out of any relationship talk until the engagement actually comes, but she is really making this waiting period depressing. 🙁
Post # 3
@sunshinewish15: You’re doing the right thing telling her to back off!
Post # 4
@sunshinewish15: And that is the reason none of my family have been told about SO & I going ring shopping a while back. His mother bumped into us while looking at rings and now his parents know. They have been asking him when a how and giving their thoughts. I told him today that there is no pressure on him and as long as we keep focus and remember the situation is about what we want and stick together we’ll be fine. Your a smart cookie until you want her involed mantain the space this is about you and your guy enjoy this moment and just remember when everything is said and done you will be with the love of your life and it would still seem to be stressuful but would have flown by fast too. Good luck
Post # 5
@lululurgurl: Thank you for supporting me 🙂
@242beauty: Thanks for your advice, it’s been hard because mum and I have a good relationship so I guess she is taking it hard that I want her to back off from this. I will keep at it though, I know I need to do what makes SO and I happy 🙂
Post # 6
@sunshinewish15: My parents haven’t been quite that upfront or pestering, but they did have a conversation with me last week to say “What gives, he’s seens you every day for a year and nearly a half”….they got engaged after 2 weeks of dating (married now 26 years). They can’t understand the hold up but I know SO loves me very much and thinks of our future all the time. He’s looking into buying a new car as his car has just broken but he was involving me n the decision “as it would affect us long term) (awwww).
It was a relaxed conversation with my parents but now I feel like we have an audience, if that makes sense.