Post # 1
I am curious if there is anyone else out there who is in recovery that is planning a wedding. My fiance drinks socially. We are talking 3 or 4 times a year. It is something he saves for special occasions and has a couple of cocktails to celebrate happy occasions. We are having very limited alcohol at our reception. Possibly some spiked punch or maybe just a keg. I just feel alone in the no drinking at my wedding thing and am curious if there is anyone out there in a similar situation.
Post # 3
Im not in your situation but I just wanted to say stay strong 🙂
Post # 4
My fiancé doesn’t drink due to his faith. I do, but only on very rare occasions, and usually not enough to actually get drunk. If it were up to him we would have no alcohol at the reception, because most of his family shares his same beliefs. Even though we are having alcohol (cash bar — my family drinks too much, there is no way I am paying for an open bar) at our wedding, I see absolutely nothing wrong with you choosing not to. Especially since you’re in recovery and it’s your day.
I want to congratulate you on being in recovery. My father has a serious drinking problem and can’t admit it. My family is lucky enough that he doesn’t get violent or aggressive, but he drinks to get buzzed every single day. It takes courage to admit that you have a problem and do something about it. Overcoming your addiction and being in recovery shows that you’re a strong woman. If you can do that, you can do anything (including ignoring anyones ignorant comments if you have no alcohol at the wedding ;). Stay strong!
Post # 5
Hi Rosie! Congrats on your recovery!
Post # 6
@Miss Rosie: THere is to be no drinking at my wedding. I save drinks for special times too but at my wedding i dont want it! I know guest are going to be sad but oh well…they arent paying for it. Good on your recovery!
Post # 7
I’m very proud of you.
I grew up in Oklahoma (where there are a lot of Southern Baptists), and honestly I was probably in my late 20s before I went to a wedding WITH alcohol. Do what feels good for you, and if you’d rather do a dry reception, that is ABSOLUTELY fine.
Post # 8
@Miss Rosie: Congrats on getting help! That’s great. I’m surprised that you plan on having alcohol at your wedding reception, though. Did you two speak about having a dry reception? You shouldn’t have to feel “alone” at your own wedding!! 🙂
Edit: I just realized you meant a different type of “alone”. I think I misunderstood what you were saying. Oops. It’s almost the end of the work day and my brain is fuzzy. hehe I don’t have any advice, but again congrats!
Post # 9
We were the opposite of you guys and i just wanted to encourage you. I”m sure you’re fiance appreciates your efforts. My husband worked for a recovery program and so there were a lot of people at our reception that weren’t going to be drinking either and we wanted to make sure that the day was fun for everyone and not uncomfortable for everyone, drinkers and non-drinkers. I think that the fact that half the people at the wedding weren’t drinking made it easier for him not to be drinking. But I really wanted to have some fun drinks for everyone there so no one felt left out everyone felt special and found a lot of great ideas. I was going to buy a bunch of locally made specialty sodas or I was giong to make a bunch of flavored drinks and punches with fresh fruit in them. At the last minute I saw an idea which ended up being a lot of fun – an italian soda bar. Since I had to hire bartenders for the beer and wine we were serving, I figured taht they’d really just be standing around all night since half our guests werent drinking anyway. I bought a bunch of club soda and 5-10 flavored syrups and people could request whatever flavor they wanted. The bartenders actually got really into it and made up a bunch of creative flavors all night. I think eveyone had a good time with it I don’t think anyone felt really left out or awkward and people drank a lot more of the sodas than the beer. You could do the same thing without bartenders and just have the flavors set up with instructions for people to make their own. Good luck with planning and thanks for posting.
Post # 10
Congrats on your recovery. WE had non-drinkers and recovering alcoholics at our wedding, so we made sure to have plenty of ‘virgin’ drinks available! As far as the limited alcohol at your wedding, I personally think it’s a refreshing (no pun intended) idea to attend a dry wedding. Weddings are sort of known as drunken all night affairs so a civilized sober event might be nice for once!
Post # 11
You can do it! It is a long road but you sound like you are on the right path.
Best of luck!
Save this post on your computer, if you ever need words of encouragement read what everyone is saying, hopefully it can help you!
Post # 12
Oh, someone on here mentioned once doing a “lemonade bar” where people added flavored syrups to their lemonade…That would be fun.
Post # 13
Congratulations on your recovery and best wishes to you.
Post # 14
Hi Miss Rosie, thank you for sharing!
I have a close loved one who just completed a year of sobriety on December 1st and I could not be prouder of him. I’m not a big drinker myself so alcohol at the wedding just isn’t a high priority to me. I love the PP’s idea of a soda bar! We kind of already do that at home – I tend to mix club soda with whatever juice we have in the house and FI just drinks it plain. My favorite mixes are cranberry and OJ and passionfruit with just about any other tropical fruit.
Post # 15
we’re doing a coffee bar! we’re having beer and wine too though. my family (who is paying) felt very strongly about that, and fi and i decided not to fight that battle.
Post # 16
Congratulations on your recovery and stay strong!!