What can I say guys? I started out with a preliminary budget of 6-7K (GBP). I redid the maths today though, and I nearly had a heart attack. We will probably spend almost £10,000 at this rate… and that doesn’t include the wedding car, wedding rings, honeymoon, stationary, or stag and hen dos. I added up everything… the 50p ribbon I bought to make headbands for the bridesmaids… the £6 set of kilner jars I sneaked in with the shopping to use as part of a display. Everything. And I was horrified.
Now, we will probably skip the wedding car and the honeymoon, but even then then we are going to have a hell of a job keeping this under £10,000… and that’s with all of our friends and family chipping in to provide the entertainment, photography and videography for free/very cheap!
…. **** me. I fail. I am officially no longer a budget bride. I feel sick at spending that much, but there isn’t much that can be cut. It’s a big wedding with super luxe food and a free bar (which were the main things we wanted). They aren’t cheap!
I just hope that we come in under budget on some of our other areas, because if we spend 10K then we will literally have nothing left. We will be absolutely wiped out, without a penny in the bank. I also hope our guests are feeling generous… thank G-d the norm in the UK is to give cash as a gift!
Please tell me I am not the only one… make me feel better guys, or at least make me laugh a little!
OH yeah I remember that. My mother promised to help me with my wedding…..money which she promptly used to install a new heating system in her house because apparently those that would stay at her house….didn’t like the old heating system? I was pretty lucky being a simple gal with simple tastes but yes, I went over my budget and I’m pretty sure that was the start of my husband losing his hair. ;D
I was the bride who insisted that I didn’t need to spend over 500 euros on my wedding dress…. 1700 euros later….We managed to keep the rest under 6K which was good going for a wedding with 250 people (thank god it was 15 Euros per head for the food and drink!)
BIL wanted a wedding under 5K because he didn’t see the point of a wedding. ILs are still 20,000 Euros in debt, trying to pay the damn thing off that’s only their half (I think they took out loans of 30K for the wedding)
The only ones I know who spent less than their budget is my brother, and that is only because after paying their deposits, getting p*&$ed off with interference, cancelling everything and eloping to New York by their tod – MASSIVE money saver! lol!
I raised my budget a couple of times as we went through the planning process. It’s really hard to stick to a budget when things are so out of control. I found that I had no idea what things cost when it came down to it, and that some of jmy budget was just completely unrealistic, originally I’m sure you can find ways to get under budget in other areas, or find things to cut out. A wedding car isn’t necesary – maybe you can borrow a nicer car from a friend, or, just have your own car decked out for a fun getaway! Save up for a honeymoon and go on your one year anniversary. There are ways around so you don’t feel like you missed out on all this stuff just because of money!
I thought i could do a wedding under $10k. Boy was I wrong. Budget is now $26k not including honeymoon
You are totally not alone.
I was a budget bride and managed to keep it under budget….even with the international flights for our DW….which was 25% of our budget. I KNOW how all those little things can add up. I DIY’d our STDs and invites b/c I refused to pay several hundred dollars for invites when only 25% of our guests came to the wedding.
Married a year and still no HM but I know that will be expensive! We got quite a bit of cash for the wedding (even from those who didn’t attend) and bought new furniture b/c I didn’t want DH’s bachelor furniture anymore.
We never gave ourselves a budget, but we’re definitely over what we thought we’d spend.
Thanks guys. Ugh. It’s just that every time I look at the budget, I see nothing which can be cut completely! Wedding favours? LMAO, they weren’t in the original budget, or this one. Groom/bride gifts? Massive LOL. Gifts for bridesmaids? Hell, I have to buy their dresses, so they aren’t getting any gifts!
Fresh flowers were cut this week. I am now running out of options, trying to decide things like: well, I could buy napkins for £40, or I could make my own… but I wouldn’t get a bulk discount on the fabric, so would that be more expensive? Maybe I could take a calculator to the fabric shop and work it out…
mmmm… linens… I could rent tablecloths for £50, or buy some for £100 and then resell them… but the ones for sale for £100 are less nice than the rented ones, and it’s only a small amount of money anyway…
*sigh*. How did it ever come to this?
I feel your pain, we are the same. Initailly we thought we’d have a £5000 budget. The venue alone was £7000 (although that includes all the catering and alcohol all day). So then we thought £10,000 was ok. Wrong again. Now we’re up to about £22000 including the honeymoon .
It’s not a huge deal I suppose, we’re paying for it all ourselves out of savings, and I’ve been haggling my backside off to get everything as cheap as possible, but we realised that to have the wedding we wanted we’d have to up the budget. Ho Hum. On a positive note I added up the other day how much it should have come to if I hadn’t haggled and bargained our suppliers down and we’ve saved over £15,000 by haggling!!!
I guess you could always cut the guest list – it’s still not until next summer!
I did try to do a wedding for $6k, and it got up to $10k. I literally wanted to throw up thinking about spending $400 on wildflowers in mason jars that will be tossed after 4 hours! The wedding was turned into a DW elopement and no more throw up feeling about spending $.
I went through it with my wedding costs. I will spare you all the details because I really really….anyway. I love my hubby. I wanted to spend 5k and I KNOW we got past that. The last 48 hours were so stressful because we owed 4k for various things! So, at first I thought that I couldn’t count my darn self. I would say we did around 10k, i am afraid to count it.
You are not alone lady! I figured we could do a wedding for 10k initially (I never included dress, rings, honeymoon though). Ummmmm… Try almost tripling that? Now we’re talking.
Budget??? What’s that? Lol I originally planned to spend 5k buuut after venue and photography that was out the window I think I am still going to be under 10 k but I’m not counting I’m just blending it into regular expenses like just another bill.
Don’t look at yourself as a failed budgeter. See yourself as a successful spender!