Post # 1
My cat is 16. I have had her just over half of my life. Last May she got really sick out of no where, and was puking and having diarrhea all over the house. I took her in, they did all the blood work and $500 later I got a $10 bottle of drugs for her infection that we can’t figure out how she even got. During this, they told me she’s super healthy, her bloodwork came back fantastic, not even a little issue with kidneys or liver or anything.
Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. Her back legs are starting to give out. She doesn’t seem at all to be in pain and is cuddly and happy and purring all the time still. However, when she tries to jump up on something you can see them not really working. She has fallen many times. Sometimes when she’s walking down the stairs you can see they just aren’t really working.
I’m faced with the issue of trying to know when it’s time. She’s my sweetheart. I love her more than I love most people. I refuse to let her live in pain, and I know that I will absolutely not be able to hesitate in putting her to sleep when I have to. I’m just so sad, and trying to be so aware of when that happens.
My current worries are thinking about having to take her in to get her put down. She HATES the car, and she will be petrified if I have to take her to the vet. I don’t want her last moments to be in absolute fear.
I’m not sure why I’m posting, I just needed some support I guess.
Post # 3
Awww….your post made me cry.
I”m so sad for you.
I know (that some vets) will come to your home for this type of thing. It may be worthwhile to make a few calls. You might find one who is willing.
Post # 4
@lia22: There are vets that will come to your home & put your animal down. My SO just had to put down her 16 year old cat as well (I think the cat was 16…at least 15). I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I know how hard it is (my dog was put down when I was 17 & it was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through)…if you don’t want to do that, you could ask the vet for a med that will calm the cat down or maybe make her really sleepy so she doesn’t get anxious and scared during the car ride.
I think you’ll be able to tell the difference in your baby when it’s time. You said she’s happy & purring now even though she’s a little off, I think you’ll be able to tell when she’s in pain & tired of it. For now just love her to pieces for as long as you have.
Post # 5
@lia22: Are her back legs/feet cold? Is she vocalizing at all?
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had to put my 17 year old cat down a couple years ago. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I cry just thinking about her. All I can say is just watch her. One day I looked at her and I knew it was time. Sometimes I worry that I waited to long and I think about her last days. :'(
Post # 7
There are many vets that will come to your home, and even your vet may be willing to even if they dont typically do house calls. If not find out if they will give you a presciption to pick up ahead of time to calm down/take the edge off the trip.
I worked at a vets office for many years, the most loving thing you can do for your pet is not letting them suffer, in my opinion. Its always hard, luckily your cat has a great owner:)
Post # 8
I am sooo sorry you’re going through this 🙁
I know how you feel. My dog had cancer that spread to his bones and walking was painful for him. He would yelp, limp- it was heartbreaking. I couldn’t bear the thought of putting him to sleep, but at the same time I didn’t want him to suffer. Luckily I didn’t have to make the decision, he ending up passing away in his sleep.
You will know when it’s time. Towards the end, my dog didn’t move as much, he would wait by the couch or bed for me to pick him up. I knew he was in pain. You’ll know.
Sending lots of hugs your way 🙁
Post # 9
@pixiecat: her legs don’t seem to be cold, and she’s always been vocal – there hasn’t been any more meowing and talking than normal.
Post # 10
Thank you everyone for your kind words. I cry all the time lately thinking about losing her. I’m turning 31 this month, so 16 yrs seems like a really long time to love her and lose her. I don’t know how I will do it, but I know that I will. I will absolutely not let her suffer once I know that she is, no matter how hard my heart will break. I know that she’s had a great long life, and I should be happy I had all this time with her. When she was a baby, the vets said she wasn’t healthy and would be surprised if she lived more than a few years. Well she sure said fuck you to that ;). I am grateful for all of the years of cuddles and love that I have had with her, but it only makes it harder to imagine coming home without her here one day.
Here is my little Whiskers (she only weighs 5 lbs – she was the runt and never got any bigger than this)
Post # 11
aw sweetheart, im so sorry you have to go through this.
You’ll know when it’s time, she’s still purring and seems happy, thats fine.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry. This is a time I am dreading as my cats get older and older. My oldest is only 6, but I’ve lost my 2 childhood cats now.
Definitely call your vet and talk about someone coming to your home when it is time. It can absolutely be done that way, and that way your cat will not experience any discomfort or fear.
Post # 13
@lia22: Ugh I’m so so so so sorry. I teared up reading this and couldn’t decide what to say. I know nothing anyone says makes it better, because I know what you’re going through. It’s so incredibly hard but you are doing the right thing for her. The way you talk about her I’m sure she felt so incredibly loved and lucky to be with you, and I’m sure she will keep feeling that until the end. Just be there for her and hold her so she’s in a happy safe place with you as her last memory.
She is gorgeous by the way. And I’m so sorry 🙁
Post # 14
Well, bad news. I called around and no one around here does house calls for anything, let alone to putting them to sleep. Looks like when the time comes I’m going to have to bring her in. Hopefully she can give me a few more months of kitty love before I have to make that decision. I will look into giving her something (i know you can give them gravol in small doses per a vet before) before I have to petrify her and put her in a car. Thanks again everyone, your comments helped me a lot.
Post # 15
I woke up in the night thinking about your poor old lady. I hope I’m not too late posting this. Have you tried glucosamine sulfate?
it’s an over-the-counter medication that a lot of older people take for arthritis, but you can dose it down for cats and dogs too. It’s not very expensive, and if she’s otherwise in good health it might make her comfortable again getting around the house for a while.
Post # 16
@bunnymama: I have actually been giving it to her for about 2 weeks now. Too soon to tell if it’s helping but I’ll keep her on it now forever. She still is in good spirits, it doesn’t even look like it’s painful when she’s walking, as much as they just look like one of them gives out and doesn’t work every 5 or 6 steps. Still a cuddly purrface!