- 7 years ago
I am the middle girl of three. My older sister (who has a different father) is about 11 years older than me. Love my sister dearly but she can an INCREDIBLE handful. She is flighty, flakey, childish and super high maintenance. For example, FI and I just bought a home together so funds are limited, so older sister asked me to come to her house (about 30 mins away) to drink and play cards, I told her I didnt want to drive out there because I get off late and work early the next morning, but would love it if she came out to me. She then proceeded to call me “awful” for not being considerate of the fact that she has three children (ages 15, 7, and 6) and how hard it is for her to cart them around. Needless to say, she wont invite me to her house when she has people over anymore.
Tuesday, I was having a particularly hard time. Money is tight planning the wedding, and FI and I are fighting a lot due to stress. Sister calls me, yells at me for having the day off and not calling her and asks me whats wrong when she hears the tone of my voice. When I told her, she seemed to care. Then we started talking wedding, she told me she talked to her hairdresser friend and was going to pass along my phone number. Then she says “See, I have been busy being a good sister. You need to be a better sister to me, I am doing all this stuff for you.” I raised my eyebrows in surprise, mostly that she had the nerve to say such a thing after helping fund my niece’s birthday party when she couldnt just the week before. I acknowledged her remark and got off the phone with her.
Today, I found out that younger sister was supposed to watch older sister’s kids so she can go to a wedding tomorrow (Saturday). Younger sister called older sister to tell her that she forgot she made plans with friends but will make arrangements for her. Older is now not speaking to younger because older feels like she does so much for everyone, and no one can do anything for her. Then she calls my mother, and my mother proceeds to tell older that she doesnt want to be in between the mess, and now older is not talking to mom. I called older to ask her if she wanted me to take the kids. Granted, I dont spend a lot of time with them and I love them greatly, but when the oldest was born I was 10, and the little ones were born when I was away at college so I am just now in a place where I can have them spend the night and take them out. But she told me she didnt think so because they dont really know me. I have seen those kids at least once a month since they were born, and even more so the last three years I have been out of school. They stayed the night when I had the apartment to myself! They know who I am! Then older proceeds to call my mom and tell her how fake I was being, pretending like I am there for her when I am really not.
I didnt want to put her in my wedding party because of her attitude and how she treats everyone when she’s angry but she appointed herself “Matron of Honor” when I didnt even want one. Now I am stuck with one who makes everything about her, talks about me behind my back, and throwing it around that she does so much for me when she hasnt done a thing except my hair on occasion! Am I crazy, or is my sister certifiably bifpolar? Argh!