Post # 1
So I don’t have any female friends. My best friend from college and my closest friend now are both males. Anyway, I had decided I wanted an emerald wedding, and I told my sister she has a lot of freedom with the dress she picks (since she’s the only other female in the weddin party) but I just want th color to be right. She has complained and said that the color will look ugly since all the guys will be wear black suits and she’s just some blotch of color, and she should be able to wear black with emerald accents. She says my pictures will look bad adn since I”m not coordinating anythign else witht he emerald (though my linens, centerpieces, and stationary will all be based on the color) she doesn’t see why she has to wear an ugly green dress.
Did you guys have similiar issues? Should I be worried that it will look ugly? I don’t want her in a black dress as I REALLY wanted a bright color. Am I being selfish because I should let her get a dress color that she’ll be more willing to wear again? Or can I say this is what I want if you don’t want to be in the wedding you don’t have to?
Post # 3
@AmberAustin: I think the best thing to do would be to just take her and try some dresses on in the color. My base color for my wedding is turquoise (actually Jade in DBs color) and my sister thought that she would hate it. However, once she actually tried on a dress in the color, she realized that it actually complemented her skin tone and would make her and my other BM really stand out….which is what I wanted. Sometimes it’s a matter of just not being able to visualize how something looks which causes the problems.
Post # 4
It is your big day and i think your sister should wear what you pick. I mean as long as it’s not ugly. My bridesmaids all agreed on a short black cocktail dress with our color ribboned in the middle and tied in a bow in the back. Maybe you could do something like we did if she doesn’t want to wear an all green dress?
Post # 5
My sister hates my colors too. I think it’s just a sister thing :P. I would stand firm. Based on what you’ve said here, your wedding’s going to be lovely and not at all ugly!
Post # 6
No, it won’t be ugly!
It’s a matter of taste, and she thinks her’s is better.
Post # 7
I would give the guys emerald ties/pocket squares, and keep her in emerald. Maybe find Emerald shoes for yourself!
Post # 8
First, your wedding will not be ugly. Of course you can ask her to wear a green dress, it’s your wedding. But with the guys in black, you in white and her in emerald green, she is the one who will stand out in your pics.
As an example, look at this pic. Your eye naturally gravitates to the bright green dress on the right:
You might want to take @roxy_angell13:‘s suggestion.
Post # 9
I think your wedding sounds lovely! As long as you’re not making her spend a fortune on it, I think she should go along with what you ask.
Post # 10
wow that is just rude… I actually love green and black together. it is your wedding, she agreed to be in it so IMO she should wear the color you want her to wear. I think it would be kinda lame if the BM and GM wore mostly plack, I thing contrast in pictures is good.
Post # 11
@mightywombat: Yeah I was definitely keeping cost in mind.
@julies1949: That’s a really good point, and definitely something to consider, I never thought about that.
@cyneswith: I really like the idea of emerald shoes, I’ll just have to be able to fight them 🙂
Thanks everyone else for helping me think through this. I have a tendacy to second guess myself especially with things I”m not familiar with (like weddings!)