my (only) sister is moving out of state ….

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
30313 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Stace126:  Aww sweetie! Big big hugs to you.  I only have one sister myself, and we are quite a few states apart as well. We are super close, and it’s hard to be apart, but in this day and age with skype, facetime, gchat, facebook chat, etc. we’ve made it work!  I miss her every day and yes, who are we kidding, a husband’s companionship never replaces a sister’s. 🙂  Hopefully you and your sister will find a rhythm for keeping in touch with one another!

Post # 4
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You feel alone! I know because I am right there with you; only I was the one that moved. I moved over an hour away to be with FI while he settles back into civilian life in his hometown and there are tons of better career opportunities closer to the city. 

I don’t regret the move because the pros outweigh the cons, but i get SO lonely and sad when I know I cant just get up and go see my mom or bestie like I used to. Thank God for my dogs 🙂 The distance helped me become closer to them actually; we talked on the phone constantly and when I do get to see them we have a great time and make the trip worthwhile. Hang in there!

Post # 5
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Stace126:  I am SO close with my sisters, live with one and the other lives 10 minutes away. I’ll be moving away from both of them by the end of the summer, maybe just an hour or so away…. and it’s killing me!! HUGS!

Post # 6
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4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Stace126:  I’m sorry to hear:( my only sis moved overseas when for my grade 12 year. I visited a couple times to make it easier, and luckily now there is skype so you can keep in touch much easier. Big hugs to you!

Post # 7
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115 posts
Blushing bee

@Stace126:  I’d like to offer you some advice from the other side… I’m the one who moved, in fact, all the way to the other side of the world. At times I miss my family and I do think about my parents getting older and being a 20-hour-plane-ride away. But, at the same time, we all need to do what makes us the happiest. This isn’t necessarily the same as what would be the right thing to do.

Right now living in NYC makes your sister happy and that is all that matters. I can understand how it’s hard for you not to have much family around but, trust me, it’s most likely harder for your sister. This is why I really want to emphasise that don’t talk to her about it. Don’t tell her how you wish she was there, how your parents are getting old etc… She knows these things. For a person who moves far away, nothing is worse than being reminded that their choice makes other people a tiny bit unhappier.

In the end, you’re not alone. Try to stay objective; you can talk to your sister and she is only 7 hours away; she can get there rather fast if she needs to. And, most importantly, your sister is happy and living her life the way she wants.

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