Post # 1
Hi, I’m new here and looking for a shoulder to cry on… I just received my invitations yesterday. My mom noticed that I forgot to include the address of the church/reception, so I had to order them. ok, next problem: i’m offering chicken or pork and my mom said, "you have to change it! because of the swine flu, no one will eat the pork!", and I said, how can I change it? it’s already ordered!!!!!! I told her absolutely not! if they don’t want pork they will choose chicken! okay, next dilemma. my father asks to see the invitations. he is not as critical as my mom, so i’m thinking he’ll love it! nope, he says, "why did you put chicken or pork, you don’t have to put that!" for the rsvp cards, and i explained to him that the vendor needs a count of each food, it’s done all the time!, he says he still doesnt like that, the people will eat what we give them! I am so sad, irritated, discouraged and depressed over this now.. 🙁
Post # 3
Oh just ignore them. Parents are already a little crazy and weddings bring out the worst in them. Does your mother watch the news? Has she not seen the 10000 times that somebody has said you can NOT catch AH1-NI from eating pork? Of course she has, but you’re her daughter and it’s your wedding, so she is geeking out about things. Your father is a man…they are all nuts and crabby about anything that costs money. You know that! 😉 As far as the address goes, are you having a lot of out of town guests? If you are, why don’t you include a map or directions card in your OOT bags? Easy, simple, problem solved, mom will relax. If not and it’s a hometown wedding, people already know where the church is! Also, tell her that nobody puts the address on the actual invite. I’ve never seen it! Tell her I’m an expert! 🙂
Good luck and remember…they are always crazy, this just makes them worse!
Post # 4
aw, well, look at this way, your parents are around to care enough, my dad lives in California, my mom lives in the Philippines, she just came over to visit, but most of my planning is done; it felt a little sad not having someone on my side to stress me out, I had to do most of the planning venue checking, videographer and photographer , shuttle arranging on my own, since I’m long distance with my FI and my parents don’t live close by; kind of miss my mom’s hovering in times like these, glad she’s here now
Post # 5
seriously – my mom has taken issue with so many of my plans, but eventually i was able to work it out with her. she has finally come to the conclusion that even though it wasn’t her idea – she likes my idea. i just needed to give her time to ‘see’ what i was envisioning. and even when we agree to disagree, we now laugh about it instead of getting into a fight over it.
also take into consideration that weddings have changed a lot since your parents wedding. my mom was like "letterpress? i’ve never heard of it. you need to have your invitations engraved!"
needless to say she loved our letterpress invites 🙂
Post # 6
First of all, unless pork isn’t kosher for some of your guests there is no reason to change the menu– Swine flu isn’t contracted from eating pork. It is like ANY OTHER FLU [just way more contagious and faster to mutate]. In fact, the W.H.O. changed the name from ‘swine flu’ to H1N1 to alleviate any undue stigma the pork industry may recieve from it being called swine flu.
Second, tell your dad it says chicken or pork because THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT. Done. Next issue.
I think KateMW has the right idea; if the church address isn’t on the invites make a map with directions to slip in with the invites/RSVP’s. Google Maps is pretty reliable globally, and gives you the option of plotting directions from the airport, from the city limits or wherever!
As for the stress & undue emotions what is your relationship like with your parents? Are you able to tell them that the things they are saying/doing are upsetting you, without them ‘flying off the handle’?
You could always just elope 😉
But seriously, don’t stress. When you get to the big day all the crap that was said & done won’t really matter when you’re in your dress with your husband having a great time.
Post # 7
um swine flew has nothing to do with eating pork I have ate pork tons this summer and have not gotten swine flew.
Post # 8
We’re having pork at our wedding and no ones seemed to mind. There’s a vegetarian option but the only people requesting that have been the vegetarians.