Post # 1
My dad called me when I was up for the weekend at FI’s place and told me my parents are splitting up. One of the first things he said was “this wont affect your wedding”. Well that’s impossible. They don’t hate each other, they are still speaking so it’s not the worst situation in the world but how can my parents breaking up not affect the wedding? I feel so lost. I’m not getting married until September but who knows where it will all be then? I’m so sad about wedding plans because I had so many plans to honor our families, like having generational wedding pictures, pictures of our parents at their weddings and our grandparents at their weddings. Im so upset and frustrated. Not to mention that I still live at home to save for the wedding. And now my dad has moved out so it;s almost forcing me to take sides because I have to live with my mom. Its just a mess and I needed to vent.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear this – no words can change how you feel but my DH’s parents split up 9 months before our wedding. It was also an amicable split and it really didn’t affect the wedding. People at the wedding who knew they split made comment about how happy they looked together and questioned if they were/would be getting back together, but it didn’t affect the feeling, the pictures, they were both involved and were ok being in the same room to help us out.
Besides, whether your parents are married or not come your wedding day, they are still your parents and their marriage produced you, and there’s nothing wrong with having that wedding picture out for people to see.
Take one day at a time – it’s ok to be upset, angry, go through the motions and remember there are always people to talk to.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry hun! My parents split up a few months before my wedding, so I completely understand. At first, they weren’t talking to each other and it was very stressful. However, at the wedding they danced together and were nice to each other, which meant a lot to me. This may happen down the road an it may not. Either way you can still do the things that you planned for the wedding. You’ve got eight and a half months and who knows how they will be then. Obviously this a really stressful time, so lean on your Fiance if you need to! Darling Husband (then FI) was a great support to me when my parents split up and I think the whole thing actually brought us closer.
I agree with the PP that it didn’t impact the overall feeling of the wedding and that their marriage produced you so it’s perfectly alright to celebrate that at the wedding.
Post # 5
i’m so sorry! i agree with the pp’s. you might word your invitations differently or decide to skip the family wedding pictures, but it probably won’t have a big effect on your wedding. you have a long time for them to work it out. lean on your fi for support!
Post # 6
*hugs* I’m sorry that this is all happening to you right now, as if you needed the added stress. However, it sounds like your parents truly love you so much that they are promising to keep their issues from effecting your special day. I hope that it stays that way.
Post # 7
My mom and my step dad are splitting up. He has been in my life sine I was 11, so 19 years. It’s very awkward bc my mom is feeling really bitter in general about men, so she is a big fat Negative Nancy about our wedding, and she doesn’t want me to invite my stepdad.
Also, I would love to do the generational pictures too but I feel like it would be a slap in the face to her if I do.
Hopefully your parents can work it out for you and be nice to each other and nice to you. It is awkward I’m sure that you are living with your mom, but just make time for your dad, and do NOT allow them to put you in the middle or use you as a carrier pigeon for delivering messages. Ugh, that’s the worst.
Post # 8
Oh NO!!!! I’m SO sorry to hear this…especially when you had such sweet plans to honor their marriage. Hopefully things will be calmer by the time your wedding day arrives. Hugs!
Post # 9
ok so the reality of it just hit me like a ton of bricks. I came home from FI’s and no one else was home, but almost all of my dad’s stuff is out of the house. It’s crazy. They have been married for 29 years and its just over like that.
Post # 10
I am so sorry to hear about your parents. I know exactly what you are feeling right now. My parents got a divorce about 6 months ago. I was at home for Christmas and had to visit my dad at his APARTMENT! Wierd. It does get better though. It is strange dealing with this as an adult but like others have said, lean on your man. This does not have to destroy the wedding. Feel what you are feeling, work through it, and you will be ok. If you need to talk to someone who’s going through it too (same timeline and everything, my wedding is late August) message me!