(Closed) My parent’s aren’t coming to my wedding, but he wants a mother/son dance

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sucks about your parents, but a good way to enter into his family is not to take this moment away from his mom.

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 I just feel like if it’s my day,…..

its his day too and i feel you shouldnt deny him this

Post # 5
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

just an idea, but maybe you could dance with his dad? 

Post # 6
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013


Oooh that is such a good idea! I love it!

Post # 7
37 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yes do that that would be really sweet! ..dancing with his dad that is! and Also make sure to not upset his parents as after all they are supporting you and sounds like they will be with you in life. 🙂

Post # 8
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@AlmostMrsWest:  I feel for you. That is rough and I may have a similar problem cooking up with regard to the interfaith marriage and who will attend, etc. But I agree with the prevailing sentiments here. If you can’t dance with his dad, dance with another father figure from his family. Everyone will love it and you will probably will too. His family obviously very much loves you already. They in essence become your new family. Enjoy them.

Post # 9
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with PP.  It is a good idea to enter his family by being gracious about this.  Maybe you could pick another person in your life that had a significant meaning to you.  Maybe a brother or cousin?  Or even a best friend who has always been there for you.

Post # 11
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Mrs.Lonestar:  100% agree with the idea of Dancing with his Dad…

I’ve been to 100s of Weddings in my lifetime (I’m over 50) and all over North America… have seen lots of local customs / traditions.

Definitely seen it where the Dances start off… Bride & Groom, Bride with Dad, then they are joined by Groom and MOB, then the Grooms Parents join up… Bride Dances with FOG, Groom with his Mom… meanwhile MOB & FOB are dancing together too… and then lastly, everyone else is free to join the Dance Floor (MC announces when)

Can really get the party started.

Sure, lets face it YOU are going to miss your Parents, and some Guests are going to notice their absense. 

BUT you are doing the right thing by realizing that this is a joining of two lives (YOURS and HIS) and two families (YOURS and HIS) even if your Parents aren’t thrilled with the idea

Dancing with his Parents will be a special moment for both you and your Groom… and I’m sure they’ll be honoured to do so… really can serve as the first moment that you are “officially” welcomed into the family

I say GO FOR IT !!

Post # 12
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My dad left before I was born and I’ve never known him, but I knew it was really important to my Mother-In-Law to dance with my Darling Husband, so I scheduled it in. Honestly, I was also worried about it drawing attention to the fact that I didn’t have a dad there, but it really wasn’t a big deal at all, in the end. Our DJ did it so that about 2/3 of the way through their song (it was kind of a long song!), he invited all couples to come up, and my Maid/Matron of Honor grabbed my hand and danced with me. It was really fun/goofy and everyone was happy. 

I wouldn’t stress about it too much!

Post # 13
1642 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@AlmostMrsWest:  Or maybe you can dance with your brother?

Post # 14
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It wouldn’t be the same but what if you danced with his dad? 

Post # 15
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry to hear your parents will not be there, it truly is heartbreaking. But this isn’t YOUR day, it’s both of your day, as a couple. It’s his day as much as it is yours. Just because they don’t get all giddy from decorations or dresses doesn’t mean it’s any less important to him, and perhaps this would mean a lot to him.

My father was never in my life, as an alternative to the father daughter dance, I’m having my uncle who helped in raising me walk me down the isle and for the father daughter dance, perhaps an alternative such as this would be a good idea, another close male figure that WILL be at your wedding, so you don’t feel so alone.

When I told my fiance I didn’t want “here comes the bride” to play when I walked down the isle, he was pretty shocked and dare I say heart broken. Some things really are important to them even if we think they wouldn’t care. I do NOT want the here comes the bride song, I think it’s way too attention getting and will probably make me tear up from a tad bit of embarrassment with everyone watching me, but I will do it for him. Marriages are about compromise, no better place to start than here

Post # 16
14345 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry your parents wont be there, but I’m glad to hear the dance is on for him and his mom.  I think one sucky situation shouldnt lead to another.

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