My parents don't want East Indian food at our multicultural wedding

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@chantal.breanne.3:  Tell your parents something like, “Don’t worry, we’re going to talk to the chef and make sure there’s a good variety of food that everyone will like. There will be mild meal options for people who aren’t used to East Indian food.” Then do your best not to discuss it further. You’re paying, it’s up to you. As long as half your guests aren’t weeping from the food being too spicy for their palates, you’re doing what you’re supposed to – providing a celebratory meal.

Post # 4
4656 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t understand your parents’ rejection of East Indian food. as long as there are alternatives, why would anyone care?

Post # 6
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Parents tend to be very traditional – THEIR traditions that is. If you are paying, just tell them that the decision is made, that you want to include your FI’s customs in the wedding – done deal.

Post # 7
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

No pay, no say!

Though I’d probably phrase it a little nicer for them!

Post # 9
32 posts

I think you have to just tell them that this is where you want to have the dinner, that you are grateful for the fact that they would like to pay, but that it isnt necessary, and that there will be variety with the food

Post # 9
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Are your parents worried their friends won’t like the food? Lots of people (especially older people) have narrow tastes and it’s not an unreasonable request to chose a restaurant that would appeal to everyone, especially at a small gathering.  It is not (at least I hope it isn’t) about hating on other cultures, it’s picking something generic.  Unless this is something super important to you, I would pick 1 other restaurant, and tell your parents if they want to switch it to there they can pay.                

Post # 10
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Have the food you want and tell them to suck it up. They’re in the wrong here.

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