Post # 1
Me and my fiancé are getting married in California with immediate family only. When we return we will be having a reception dinner with family and friends specifically my parents friends. We want to have the reception dinner at an east Indian restaurant. It has a buffet beautiful atmosphere beautiful decorations and delicious food. All of our friends and family love East Indian food and the reason we chose this place is because it’s our favorite restaurant and the price will be $25 per person for a bUffet etc. when I told my parents this they said don’t you think you should choose something that would be better suited to a variety of tastes i’m getting kind of frustrated we offered to pay and we chose this location. My boyfriend is Pakistani and no part of our wedding is representing his culture most of his family will not even be attending as they don’t live close by. I feel that my parents seeing that was rude and I feel pretty offended. How are they active his parents were planning the wedding with them clearly they would have to compromise there would be East Indian Pakistanis there and food and dress. I feel frustrated and I don’t know what to do
Post # 3
@chantal.breanne.3: Tell your parents something like, “Don’t worry, we’re going to talk to the chef and make sure there’s a good variety of food that everyone will like. There will be mild meal options for people who aren’t used to East Indian food.” Then do your best not to discuss it further. You’re paying, it’s up to you. As long as half your guests aren’t weeping from the food being too spicy for their palates, you’re doing what you’re supposed to – providing a celebratory meal.
Post # 4
I don’t understand your parents’ rejection of East Indian food. as long as there are alternatives, why would anyone care?
Post # 5
Hey, i can talk to them but I have A feeling they dont want east indian food altogether and this is just their way of saying it! The food wont be spicy it will be things like plain white rice, butter chicken, naan bread, tandoori chicken, vegitables, curry etc..
Post # 6
Parents tend to be very traditional – THEIR traditions that is. If you are paying, just tell them that the decision is made, that you want to include your FI’s customs in the wedding – done deal.
Post # 7
No pay, no say!
Though I’d probably phrase it a little nicer for them!
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: They are fighting tooth and nail to pay!! AHH
Post # 9
I think you have to just tell them that this is where you want to have the dinner, that you are grateful for the fact that they would like to pay, but that it isnt necessary, and that there will be variety with the food
Post # 9
Are your parents worried their friends won’t like the food? Lots of people (especially older people) have narrow tastes and it’s not an unreasonable request to chose a restaurant that would appeal to everyone, especially at a small gathering. It is not (at least I hope it isn’t) about hating on other cultures, it’s picking something generic. Unless this is something super important to you, I would pick 1 other restaurant, and tell your parents if they want to switch it to there they can pay.
Post # 10
Have the food you want and tell them to suck it up. They’re in the wrong here.