- 4 years ago
Im not sure how to handle this anymore. I have planned and paid for this entire wedding on my own. While I did not expect my parents to pay for my wedding (not that they couldn’t, they make in the top 15% salary range in the country), I did slightly expect some emotional support from at least my mother. I know men dont really get into weddings, and me and my father have never had a good relationship, but my mom couldnt give a damn about any of it either. When I told her I was engaged, instead of hugs and a “congratulations!”, I got a “oh, well thats nice”.
She never brings up the wedding, and every attempt I make to include her in anything, she only has negative things to say. For instance, I told her we were having an open bar, which included beer, to which she stated that “having beer at your wedding is trashy”. I told her I was having 5 bridesmaids, including my maid of honor, and she laughed and said I didnt have enough friends to have a big enough wedding to have 5 bridesmaids.
We have less than 6 weeks to go, and her and my father have yet to even get something to wear (yes, the man “walking me down the isle” has less than 6 weeks to find a tux). I would think she would be excited to find s dress to wear, yet this whole thing, wedding and all seems like another “thing” she has to attend.
It is really getting to me. Every time I think about it, I start to cry. This is one of the biggest decisions ill make in my adult life, and it doesnt even phase them. At one point, I thought about cancelling everything..I mean if your family doesnt even care, why even bother? I literally have my mother, father, sister and one uncle. No cousins, nothing. That is all I have, and they dont even care (besidesmy sister, who has been a huge support factor for me)
Can anyone give me some advice on how to get through this? The closer the date gets, the harder it is to deal with this. It takes my excitement away from it.