(Closed) My Parents hate BF (NWR..)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

Have you had fights in front of them?

Has he in any way been rude to them?

Have they mentioned anything besides the job thing?

Post # 4
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m a little confused as to why your parents have any idea what your financial arrangement with you BF is.  I would definitely try to limit the information you share with them.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

 

Im sorry this is happening to you. Parents do come round eventually, I just think they are being really obnoxious about the situation as soon as they realise that they are making all huff and puff about nothing and its not going to change your mind… they will have their tails between there legs and will probably have to eat humble pie.

But on the other hand.. can you look at your relationship from an analytical point of view and non biased. Is there any obvious reason that you can see why they are negative on him? sometime an analysis can work.

My FH and I took awhile for my parents to come round too. My FH used to be a jehoviahs witness, and I came from a strong Christian family. So according to FHs family, im not the best for their son. But my parents have been nothing but welcoming.. my parents have their dissapprovals but they soon saw how happy I was and how my relationship with FH was a positive one. They came round…

best of luck!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Thats too bad, its always hard when your loved ones don’t approve of who you want to be with. I think you should sit down with your parents and tell them that you love BF and he isn’t going anywhere and assure them that he treats you well and makes you happy (assuming this is true) Tell them that you hope one day they see what you see but until then you hope that they are supportive and trustworthy of your decisions. 

Do they think he is taking advantage of you or disrespectful to you? Sometimes outsiders can see more than what the people involved see. And then sometimes parents are over protective and have the attitude “no one is good enough”.

Hopefully it all works out, relationships are difficult as it is and it makes it even harder when you don’t have the support of family.

 

Good luck, I hope they come around and I hope your BF is treating you well!

 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry this is happening to you.  You seem like a very intelligent woman, so I’m sure you’ve looked at a ton of angles to this without drawing any valid straws – which is why you’re here, and we’re as baffled as you are.

The only thing I can think of is this:  Since you’ve known him for eight years, it’s possible that he’s loosely connected to your parent’s network somehow?  Could they happen to hear bad gossip about him from a neighborhood friend?  Not recent gossip, but something from high school?  I’m not sure why it would bother them, but who knows.

Maybe that’s a stupid suggestion, but really I’m having a hard time understanding what’s up if it’s not the old race or religion card they’re playing…

*HUGS*

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Normally I think that there must be a real something there when parents and best friends hate a BF or GF, but it sounds more like controlling behavior than anything else.

This just came up yesterday? Boy, mom sounds like a real drama-queen. I think that if this is new, just let it be. If either one starts in on you, calmly inform him or her that you will hang up if he or she doesn’t knock it off. Then follow-up if necessary. They’ll get the point. Just do this until FI has a job and things calm down.

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