- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I had last week off work for spring break (being a teacher is fun =] ) I had not seen my parents in quite a while so against my better judgement I took four days out of my break to visit them..and my FI had to work so it was just me and our dog along for the ride.
To start things off, no my parents are not divoreced, they are miserably married for 25 years now..They have fought my whole life but it’s just getting flat out terrible at this point..
Essentially they are both at fault, I just don’t know where the break down started first. My dad is addicted to the internet, he’s not doing anything wrong, he’s just constantly on facebook or reading the news. Literally will not get away from it, if he’s not working his face is in his laptop. It’s depressing, my mom and I had a conversation about it with him in the room and he didn’t even notice. He is also rather lazy and doesn’t help with much of anything. It frustrates my mom who is a very neat and orderly person.
Even things like, my dad has neglected cleaning out the gutters on the house for years and now the roof needs repairs. I understand my moms frustration.
I guess the frustration grew to resentment, and now she has flat out said multiple times even in front of my dad that she doesn’t even like him anymore.
But she has always treated my dad poorly he can never win and what he does do is never enough (and reality it probably isnt) but i think he buries his face in a laptop to escape the verbal abuse (i know that’s why i had completely moved out by 19)
I have begged them to seek counseling or get a divorce. My mom won’t do either, my dad is willing to get help but my mom just doesn’t care.
I told her I think she wants to be miserable, other wise she would do something about her situation. I told her you can’t sit on you A$$ and then complain when nothing changes.
Then she just says this is my life it’s miserable and I just have to get through it until I die.
Seriously, I can’t deal with it. I’ve spent years of my life playing mediator and counselor for my parents and I’m just sick of it. They need to grow up. It depresses me and I’m happy person. But being around them just sucks the life out of me.
I don’t even know what to do anymore. I hate being around my own parents and I’m starting to resent them myself, as if they haven’t given my plenty of opportunities over the years to already resent them. (has anyone read my engagement story?)
Anyone else out there in a similar place?