(Closed) my parents have zero interest in my wedding =(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
9230 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@sharky:  I’m sorry, that really sucks! Can you have a talk with them and tell them how it’s hurting your feelings, and that you really need their emotional support during this really exciting time? (Or email them if you don’t want to talk about it person.) I know it sucks to have to ask them for their interest – but hopefully if they realize how shitty it is, they’ll put in more effort … xox

Post # 4
Member
747 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sharky:  I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m going through similar things. I’m the oldest of five and first one to get married. Figured my parents would be super excited. But because my FI is not a Christian they won’t help pay for it and haven’t helped a whole lot. It’s been a frustrating task full of tears but my FI has been my biggest support. We’ve planned everything together. And yes it does hurt that my family isn’t more involved but we will make it through! Hugs to you!

Post # 5
Member
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had similar issues with my mom. She wasn’t there when I got my dress, and had all kinds of excuses as to why she couldn’t be there/help out/whatever. She wasn’t contributing anything, but I didn’t care, I just wanted her to be there.

Eventually I talked to her about it, and it turns out that she felt so guilty that she couldn’t help at all that she just didn’t want to be “in the way.” I had to sit her down and tell her to STOP, and that I WANTED her there, and that if she felt guilty one more time, I’d have to kick her, because it wasn’t about that. She got better after that. 

I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with them about this. They may not realize what it’s doing to you because they’re probably too abosorbed in their feelings. Express to them why it’s important to you that they’re a part of it all.

The topic ‘my parents have zero interest in my wedding =(’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors