- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
so this is a hard one for me to deal with emotionally…my parents don’t make a lot of money and we never pressured them or even ASKED them to help out financially with the wedding. My fiance and I are funding our whole wedding by ourselves and i have even bought my mother’s dress and am paying for her to have her hair and makeup done.
I’m bothered because my parents seem to have zero interest in our wedding. I think it may be a bit of embarrassment or bitterness bc they are unable to help out. But, they’re solution to the problem is to avoid anything that is wedding related at all costs. They have never been very open people, but i just thought this would be an exciting time for them? I have one older brother and he is not married. So this is the first wedding for our family.
I recently sent out our save the dates and was so excited! I messaged them that I was working on addresses and sent out a STD to my parents and fiance’s parents before anyone else. They never replied.
A few days later fiance’s mother called so happy and excited about getting the save the date. And now our other guests got them in the mail as well.
Still no word from my parents. I left them a message asking if they got them and what do they think, and i’m still waiting for that reply.
It hurts bc I feel almost annoyed that my fiance’s family is over involved in everything and my family is no where to be found. I dont want to have to beg for their attention. I’m not looking for them to spoil me with attention over every little detail, but a simple call to see how planning is going, or questions about the venue/ceremony other plans would be nice.
Just to know that they care and are a bit excited is all im looking for. Helping out with a wedding doesnt only entail financial help, but emotional support goes a long way =(
just a little venting session. thanks for reading if you made it all the way through.