- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
I have been desparately trying for 2 weeks or so to get over my anger and frustration about the guest list/invitations, and haven’t reached that point yet. Thought maybe if I vented here, I could get it out and feel better.
When we began wedding planning, we decided it was going to be in my hometown (where my parents and grandma live), and be a smallish wedding, about 75-85 people. I asked my mother about how many people they would like to invite, she said “About 12 couples” and I wrote out the potential guest list, with her 12 couples included. I sent it to them, they agreed and said it looked good. Also, it was discussed that ONLY the people who i specifically said “Invite Guest” would have that on their envelope. All’s well, right?
Fast-forward 2 months. The invitations go out (with Mom’s “embellishments” of glittery heart stickers, after having specifically said “no stickers”) and lo and behold, out of the 120 invitations, only NINETEEN are left for my fiance’s side. Out of the 50 invites for my side, 50 for his side, and 20 “whoops, we forgot you” or “whoops, we DO want you to come,” only 19 are left for him. Why? Mom and Dad sent out invites to about 40 extra people.
What. The. Heck. I didn’t even know they had invited all of those people until AFTER the invites were sent out! They COMPLETELY “failed” to mention the take-over of the guest list. Furthermore, all of the single people who were not supposed to be bringing dates are now bringing their dates, b/c Mom and Dad had that printed on the envelopes.
Now, I completely know I am being a bit bratty. It’s in their hometown, they’re paying for it, and I asked them to mail the invitations for us, as I was out of country the weeks when they needed to be printed. So, really, I guess I have no right to complain about all of the extra people.
I’m trying to look at this positively – more people= more gifts. It’s spoiled sounding, I know. I guess I just didn’t want to celebrate marrying my best friend with so many people I have never met, when FI and I both wanted a small intimate affair. It just makes me so angry that after all of the “It’s YOUR wedding” they went behind my back and invited SO MANY of their extra friends, neighbors, acquantainces, long-lost whoevers, especially after having discussed, in concerete terms, the guest list.
What makes it worse is that their friends are the only people, aside from 2 of my friends, who have RSVPed at all, so every time I see a new RSVP, it’s from someone my parents invited.
Anyways, just needed to share. I know I need to get over this anger – I am not alone in experiencing parental mishaps in wedding planning, but still…