- 3 weeks ago
- Wedding: May 2017 - Centurion Conference & Events Center in Ottawa
I immigrated alone to Canada and met my Fiance here. Our Wedding planning journey has came to a shock crash, when my mother notified me that my father (who is a previous colon cancer patient stage 2b went through chemotherapy treatment) will not be able to travel to Canada and attend my wedding. The cancer came back and he just must not travel and go through all this difficulties becuase it might cause risk to his weak health and he needs to take a new session of Chemo. Therefore, she cannot leave him and travel alone.
I am totally alone here. No family from my side. The last thing I ever imagined is that I will get married without my parents.
We have been delaying our wedding just for the sake of them coming and attending, we did everyhting around them, we chose a spring time to not bother them with the Canadian winter, we arranged everything around the idea that my parents will come, and waited patiently.
Now my parents won’t come.
They refused that I postpone my wedding, my father asked me to go ahead and move on and get married no matter what. And later I can visit him after he ends his treatmentm, but he doesn’t want us to travel and visit him while he is on treatment before our wedding, and after all the deposits we paid for the wedding vendors.
I am completely devestated. I am extremely attached to my family emotioanlly, and i immigrared to plan ahead and bring them here to a safe country. We come originally from Syria and we need to find a better country to live in. They live and work in another country in the middle east that doesn’t provide any citizenship or refugee help. So I decided I will pioneer and immigrate cuz I was eligible, did this alone, they supported me 100%.
My mother said you should not expect that we can stand beside you while you are far away in each and every situation, someytimes our situations are out of control, we did our best for you and you should move on in your life even if we were not there beside you.
BUT I REALLY CAN’T. I burst in tears whenever I imagine my wedding day without them and I am 100% sure I will cry in my wedding dress and will not feel the joy.
We want to get married and we cannot delay that anymore. We planned all our life now and I am moving to his place and I ended everything in the current city I live in, there is no going back now.
Please let me know what to do. Why life is so harsh like that. I just can’t seem to have anything going the way I imagined.
I am devestated.