my partner may have a mental disorder… He ruins every holiday

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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Busy bee

Firstly, no one on the internet can disagnose your SO with anything.  Get thee to a clinic.

Also, what do you mean he “ruins” the holiday.  By not getting you a present?  By instigating fights or being mopy?  By pissing in the gravy dish?

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Buzzing bee

@DrTeeth:  By pissing in the gravy dish?…. made my day lol

 

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Sugar Beekeeper

@SashaL00OVE:  Well, you didn’t exactly give much information. So he doesn’t give you flowers or jewelry…that could mean any number of things.

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Buzzing bee

@SashaL00OVE:  You need to relax, she is trying to be helpful by getting more information from you. You don’t say much about what exactly he does to “ruin” your holiday. 

Holidays are stressful for many people, and can bring up bad memories from childhood, or remind them of loved ones who have passed on, etc. Maybe this is why he is cranky or argumentative on holidays. If he treats you well otherwise I would let it go. Those days only come 4 or 5 times a year. Find a way to make it more low-key, like doing something non-traditional for a holiday. Maybe go on a cruise at Christmas, or have a backyard BBQ for Thanksgiving.

That being said, from what you mentioned I don’t think he has a mental disorder. That’s a pretty weighted term to be throwing around; please be careful how you use it. If he does have some sort of mental disorder (and there is more to the story that we don’t know about), try to be supportive in encouraging him to seek therapy.

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Busy bee

Maybe he’s just an asshole? 

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Busy bee

@SashaL00OVE:  With the vague pieces of information you’ve given us – no one can possibly tell you whether this is normal or not. If you want true advice, then you need to disclose a little bit more info for us.

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