Post # 1
He recently closed his business that he had for over ten years. this bad economy forced him to finally have to. so obviously he’s going through one of the hardest times in his life. hence the drop in sex drive. it’s dropped from every other day/ sometimes multiple times a day, to once a week! and it’s very hard on me. i feel like my sexually is being stifled. i’m a VERY sexual person and would love to have it about every day! the rejection is hurting me. he is also much more emtionally withdrawn than ever before! and the combination of the two is really affecting me! i know i need to be understanding of what he’s going through. but this has been going on for months! i feel neglected unloved and unwanted. this isn’t meant to be a bitching post… i just need some caring ears and hearts to hear me. i can’t talk to him about it, and my best freinds are my mom and my sister and i try to make a point not to say anything negative about him to them. what would you girls do in my situation? i only want friendly responses please!!
Post # 3
What about a weekend away? My bf has a super stressful job but when we’re away he’s able to focus on me and really relax. Maybe it will kick start him??? Go easy on him and give him a little bit of time!
Post # 4
I would try to help him get active. Go out, exercise, fill the mind with happy thoughts and maybe his libido will be revived. Care for depression may also be necessary. Good Luck!
Post # 5
Sorry you’re going through that ;(.
I really don’t know what to do in this situation except to try and initiate and not take it personally if he says no. And you can always just take care of yourself when you feel the need until his libido picks up again if all else fails.
Just know that you are loved and that it’s just a tough, tough time for a man to go through losing a career. It’s part of what makes them feel like men-being able to provide for themselves and others and being successful at what they do.
Be supportive of new ideas he has, maybe take him on a date or give him a massage.
Good luck, lady.
Post # 6
@Sweetie Pie 21: i feel for you. i have a high sex drive too.
it sounds like he may be depressed. i would suggest that he go speak to someone. is he working somewhere else now or still looking? that could really do damage on a man’s self-esteem if he can’t support his new bride.
you need to stay positive and supportive for him. just be there for him. in the meantime, i’d get a vibrator.
Post # 7
I would jus try to adjust to his sexual pattern for a little while, I know as a woman if I got Ina funk I’d want the same respect, just try to adhere for now and work from there. This is a long term thing, you will have different sex drives at different points,
Post # 8
@LuckyJuls: This! Everything right here a 100% over
Post # 9
He probably feels like he failed as a provider and a man. It’s probably all subconscious, I doubt he has even thought those words, but I think it’s a common primal fear for men who’re having work- or income-related problems. Find small ways to make him feel more like a big strong man, maybe by getting him to help you with something or making comments. Maybe also try to find a way to make him feel optimistic about future finances or business prospects. Hopefully that helps.
Post # 10
Poor guy! 🙁 I know its hard, but you really need to be supportive and try your best to cheer him up. Having to close a business would be hard to deal with!
Why can’t you talk to him about it? How else will this get fixed?
Post # 11
@Cady: He already knows i need more intimacy and attention than he’s been giving lately. he knows me and what i desire.
Post # 12
also, i can’t even please myself lately because i feel so upset we aren’t pleasing each other!!