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lol aww. That is awful. I would try to show her other things to try to get her to change her mind about certain items :)
All of this is understandable, but there is nothing you can do. It does "suck". Good Luck. I'm not sure what else I can advise you to do. Ya know? Sounds like you are, hopefully, marrying into a great family.
Ugh, that IS rough! I'm so sorry. I guess that means you may wanna tweak your plans a little but don't settle too much because you deserve your dream wedding too! You'll probably be engaged before they get married and I bet when you are you FSIL will be annoyed hearing about it too! Like, this is supposed to be about me! Its hard to supress these feelings, they're totally normal.
I almost lost my SH*T when my FI's older brother got engaged. It was such an odd scenario. We'd been together for over 3 years by then, living together for 2 years. His older brother breaks up with his long term girlfriend (who has his child) and starts dating someone else. 8 months later they got engaged. They've been on the fast track ever since. I remember freaking out and saying something like, "wth, I've put in 3 and a half years with you and we've never had a marriage conversation and she puts in 3 and a half minutes and gets everything she wants!!!" It was ugly. Try not to be like me lol.
Oh that is so rough... It's nice that you've found some humor in it. Your day will come & you'll still have your dream wedding :) Don't get too discouraged.
Congratulations on your new home!
I guess it's nice to know that you and FSIL will get along? Otherwise, that does sound trying in the extreme.
Welcome to the hive ((HUGS)) i'm sorry you're going through this, but your wedding will be stunning and beautiful and hey maybe you can purchases vases etc from your fsil...
Well darn...that sucks. Nothing to do but see the humor in the situation. I guess you will fit right in with the family since you guys tastes are so similar. Your day will come and then it will be your time to gush and other people's turn to shut the radio off before you hear their song....LOL.
That sucks, but I'm glad you're taking it in stride well. I had a dream wedding in my mind for years and then once we got down to planning it, everything went out the window and I had a completely different - PERFECT wedding. Hang in there.
Thanks for all the responses. :-) She and I do get along really well, I've already started envisioning a new dream wedding. Most of the same things, but maybe a backyard wedding instead of the same location as hers. My parents had a backyard wedding, I could probably even have the same person to marry us. :-)
There you go, everything happens for a reason! Now you're starting to think of ideas that may make your wedding even "dreamier!" :) By the time you will get married (which is not saying it will be a long time), you will more than likely have changed your mind from things you originally wanted, which is why it's kind of a blessing to have a long time to plan from when you first start wanting to get married (i.e. waiting) to when you actually do.
So I'm curious... where are you two in the waiting game? What has been discussed, and for how long? Has he made any kind of promises?
@ littlemissmango: When we talk about it, it's usually a when, not if sort of thing. I think the biggest thing holding him back is money. We just bought a house, money is and will be tight! But, in a way, us buying a house is a relief. Marriage has been on my mind for at least a year now, every holiday I find myself wondering if he's going to propose. Now that we've bought a house I feel like their is no money for a ring, so I'm not sitting here thinking "is it going to be today?" I can just sit back, enjoy our house and be completely shocked when it happens.
If it makes you feel any better, my cousin and his wife picked my baby's name (not pregnant, not even close). I didn't tell them, but they picked the name. First and Middle. What a coincidence!!
There's no way to get around it: this sucks, and I'm really, really sorry. The good thing about this, though, is that since you'll be getting married after her, you can be sure to improve on anything she does that doesn't go over well. Not that weddings are at all about one-upping people, but still, you always want to be sure your weddings stands out somehow.
After planning our own wedding, I can tell you, though, that no matter the color scheme or details, your wedding WILL be your wedding. I know she has your venue and your colors and flowers, but those things can easily be changed. Even if you used the same venue, it could be a completely different wedding. Just start to put some new ideas together. Think of color schemes you equally enjoy and get excited about those. That might help to take your mind off being jealous (which is natural, by the way).
Let's just hope Shannon doesn't get the dress of your dreams :)
@ Erindesmar - that REALLY sucks!
@ Miss Chapstick - Her's is strapless, I look terrible in strapless, so I think I'm good there! When HFMIL told me she had a picture, I was afraid to look! lol
Ouch! I see how that could be really irritating. :/ Oh well, just do it BETTER!!
:)
Yikes, that is really hard!! But keep focusing on your new "dream" wedding. At least you'll have the opportunity to check out all the stuff you imagined in person, and see if it really works or not! You'll probably have way more insight when it comes time to plan yours... :)
:-( I'm sorry! Don't worry too much - you will find tons of ways to make your wedding completely personalized when you do get married!!!
Aw, I'm sorry. I had a bit of a hard time with it when FSIL and FBIL were planning. R and I started dating before them, but we're younger so they got married before us. It just so happened that everything I liked at the time decor-wise, FSIL picked.
Honestly, though, my tastes have changed in the years since then, and I had a wonderful time being involved with her wedding. It was hard to deal with some of the little things, but by the time the wedding weekend rolled around I had forgotten all about them. Now it's our turn!
I'm sorry. Thats just aweful and not really being able to do anything about it makes it worse. Atleast you'll be able to see the outcome of her wedding and be able to perfect yours.
That sucks!
But on a positive note - this could be your 'practice' dream wedding. Anything that doesn't look right or go right you can do better;-)
And on another note - Before I was engaged I had all these ideas of what I was going to have and some of it is the same but a lot has changed! So I am sure some things will change and your wedding will be YOUR DREAM WEDDING when your day comes!
oh my gosh that would drive me CRAZY. I'm so sorry :( it does suck worse when it is unintentional because you feel like you can't even be mad about it (you can, by the way, just privately). ((Hugs))
Lilybee: This is the same thing that Kim Kardashian said about Khloe's wedding. "I'm afraid the day will get here and they'll get to the part where they ask for objections and I'll finally just snap and start shouting "This was suppose to be MY wedding!!!" (Tust me I would be feeling the same way.)
I can't blame you for being upset. I guess now you should focus your energy on finding something new. Maybe change the theme or do a different variation of what you orginally wanted to do. I have an older cousin who is getting married next year and she is using one of the unquie favors that I wanted to use. So I just thought of something else. I know that a wedding favor is not the same as an entire wedding, but I was a bit disappointed.
It will work out okay for you, and you may find that you like your new ideas even better.
Good luck!
That totally sucks! I had to make agreements with my SO's twin sister sophomore year of college. They are twins and we have been friends forever so we figured we'd hash it out before resenting each other! Just think of this wedding as ideas and you can have more time to figure out greater ideas. My SO's sister got married first last spring and I'm actually excited because I get to go second..... which means I've already seen all that she has done.... there is always going to be a little competition. good luck!
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So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years. Last May I was convinced he was going to propose, long story short I received some wedding signals he didn't send out. Well a week after I thought he was going to propose his sister calls to tell us that SHE is engaged. They've been dating half as long as us, but that's still a long time and I am happy for them. Jealous, but happy.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. My BF and I just bought a house, his mother came to help us with the move. She was WONDERFUL, she made phone calls for us, helped us paint, clean, pack, un-pack, just wondeful. Except for the fact that she spent a LOT of time talking about her daughter's, Shannon, wedding. I understand this of course, she is so excited about her daughter getting married and a lot of the planning is taking place right now.
It gets worste. Apparently Shannon and I have similar taste, because she is planning MY dream wedding. She's getting married where I wanted to get married, the time of year I want to get married, the same color scheme, even the same flowers! At one point while my hopefully future MIL and I were painting the song came on that I would like to walk down the isle to, I jumped up and turned it off as fast as I could. That is just what I need! I can see it now HFMIL "Oh, Shannon would just LOVE this song, I should recommend it to her" *eye twitch*
The wedding is not for another whole year. I'm afraid the day will get here and they'll get to the part where they ask for objections and I'll finally just snap and start shouting "This was suppose to be MY wedding!!!"
The worste part is, it's all just a coincidence. It's not like I told Shannon I wanted these things and she "stole" them. We just have similar, VERY similar, taste. Plus I'm not even engaged. But still, what are the chances???
Don't get me wrong I do see the humor in this situation, but really?