(Closed) My pre-relationship dreams crushed in exchange for a diamond ring! Eeps!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Well the bf was looking for  ajb out of the area we currently live in for awhile… however he just looked for jobs occasionally (as he’s had the same job for 6 years) and never really put a lot of effort in to finding one. So I started looking everywhere in the state for a job and I did end up getting one… locally. So now the bf is really intent on finding a new job and it’s really difficult to find one locally because we live in  a very small town. However my job is really good and my boss has invested a lot of money into paying for classes for me… so I’m not moving anytime soon. So now he’s antsy to go but I cant move…

I dont have any advice. However I hope things work out for both of us 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

If you’re going to be applying for grad school, I’d stick it out in another year. It’s more than likely you’ll have to move for grad school, out of whatever city you move into. That’s when you can start the novel and new chapter of your life 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Could you start taking online classes for your phd? That could at least get you started in the meantime…make you feel like you’re going somewhere, even if the move isn’t.

It’s tough to stay in the city your SO wants to. I’m a california girl at heart and would love to live somewhere other than the midwest. I’m not a fan. But St. Louis is OK. Don’t love it, but it is what it is. DH grew up here, loves it, and we won’t be moving EVER.

If St. Louis had better mexican food, I could probably get on board…=]. The good has to outweigh the bad. At least he’s OPEN to the idea of moving =]

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Don’t let staying in one place for him turn into a reason to resent him. That said, love likes to change our lives.

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