(Closed) My pregnant sister is driving me bonkers!!!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Have you talked to your sister about how long she is comfortable with you staying with her? Maybe it is her way of saying the baby is coming and they would like to have things ready for her arrival, and that may include getting her nursery set up.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ouch.  I bet she has no idea she’s offending you.  It doesn’t sound like she’s being ‘catty’, for lack of a better word, about it.  It just sounds like she’s in a freenzy.  And it being her first child, she’s going to over prepare.  I think its only gonna get worse when Claire arrives.  So talk to her about it now, in a non-confrontational way of course (don’t want to anger a hormonal woman :oP ). 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with the other poster.  I think this may be your sister’s way of hinting that she feels its time for you to move on.

Do you have a planned moving date?  If so, just gently let her know that you REALLY appreciate being able to stay with her until XYZ date, and after that you’d be happy to help her set up the bathroom and nursery however she wants it, but if you’re staying there for now, you and your things do need a little space, and if it’s OK, you’d really like to be able to have them spread out in the bathroom.  Tell her that you’re excited to meet your niece, but you’re just feeling unwanted and homeless, and would like the have the little haven that she was allowing you to have until you’re able to move out. 

If you don’t have a moving date, you probably need to discuss this with her.  Chances are that before she was so far along, having you stay with her sounded fine.  Now that she’s closer to D-Day, she feels differently, which is unfair but valid, and you probably need to talk about it.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, in reality, it doesn’t sound like you’re in the way.  However, she has that instinct to have EVERYTHING ready.  And that includes the bathroom, all set up the way it will be when the baby is here. 

Unfortunately, since she knows what’s going on, it sounds like she’s just being inconsiderate.  You could either suck it up and live with it, or try offering to put everything back just like she wants after you move out, if she’ll just let you leave your things in there for now.  I don’t think it’s too much to ask, but who knows how she will react…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

yes it’s rude, but if i were you i’d cut your sister some slack. i know when i’m pregnant and that close to being due, i’ll have a mile-long to-do list of things to finish before the baby is born, because once the baby is born he/she will sap up all my time and energy. since you’re moving out soon anyway, i’d either let it slide, or if you really need more space, ask her if you can move the baby’s stuff for now but volunteer to move it back after you move out

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Unfortunately the closer the due date, the more unprepared you feel and the more frantic you get about the stupidest things!  She may realize she’s being intrusive, but may be unable to help herself.  Just talk to her about it.  Put it in completely rational terms, and explain that you really appreciate all her help, and that when she goes into labor you will be sure that everything in the guest bathroom is ready for your niece.  That will really help calm her fears, and she may even let you put your stuff back.  (I say may because you just can’t be rational sometimes when you’re pregnant, even if you really want to be!  It’s like a mind cloud!)  Hopefully you’ll move out soon and she can really nest for the baby.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

that’s annoying! But I would probably just deal with it at this point – its only a little more than another month and she is probably a little nutso with her first kid coming.  OR you could just kindly remind her you appreciate staying there but are actually paying rent, so maybe you could offer to put the baby stuff where she wants it right before the baby comes, but use that space in the meantime? I mean its kind of silly for the space to be taken up for the baby until the baby gets there….

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

🙁  Hopefully you’ll be gone before the baby comes anyway.  In the meantime, sorry you have to deal with it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

aww, that doesn’t sound like any fun. She’s obviously in full on nesting mode and is probably getting antsy about everything being in it’s place. Since it’s only a month I too would try and just let it slide. Congrats on your new house, stuff like this will make it all the sweeter when you finally do move!

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