- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
When I was younger, my niece used to be a good friend. We used to write each other, go on holiday, that kind of stuff. Finally , I ended our friendship because whatever I did or got, she always gave me the feeling she did it better. It felt like some kind of competition, and no matter how ‘good’ I was doing, she always made me feel I was a loser.
Now it’s ten years later. A few months ago, I received an email in which she asked for my address because she’s going to get married. She also said she thought it ‘s time to put the past behind us and move on.
First, I agreed with her because I don’t think it’s ok to hold a grudge against somebody. Maybe she had changed, after all. And I told her I was getting married too, and asked her for her address as well so I could send her an invitation.
In the last few months, we got in touch by email to tell each other about our weddings. And guess what? It’s again feeling like a big competition which I can’t win. I have one dress, she has two dresses. My wedding lasts one day, hers three. We’re going on a honeymoon for two weeks, she’s going abroad for three weeks. She got engaged while staying in a very expensive (her words) holiday resort, I got engaged while staying at home. The whole ‘competition’ is really depressing, but on the other hand, I hate myself for feeling such a loser, because I’m very happy with my life, my marriage, and my future husband.
So, on one hand, I don’t want to sent her an invitation at (we’re planning to sent them next week). But on the other hand, I refuse to let her know I’m getting sick of her, so maybe I should sent her an invitation. I just don’t know what to do.
The other problems is, I like her parents. But maybe it’;s weird to sent them an invitation and not to their daughter.
Would you please give me some advice? That would be really helpful!