Post # 1
I had posted awhile back how I was a bit worried how people would react towards my response card wording.
My invitations went out a little bit over a week ago and we really haven’t had any complaints as of yet.
Only my mom’s cousin complained because she felt that she should have been able to bring a date and she’s also po’d that we’re not inviting any children but other than that, everyone else has been fine with it.
People have actually called my mom to compliment her on how diplomatic the wording was on how it was nice that she made it clear as to whom exactly was invited for those who might not be familiar with the inner envelope etiquette.
So for those of you who are worried about awkward conversations and plus ones, here’s the wording that I used:
The favour of your reply is requested on or before March 1, 2010.
We have reserved _____ seat(s) in your honour. [THE CALLIGRAPHER FILLED IN THE NUMBER OF SEATS RESERVED)
_________________________________________ [THE CALLIGRAPHER FILLED IN THE NAMES OF THE GUESTS WHO WERE INVITED)
___ Accept(s) with pleasure
___ Decline(s) with regrets
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Ooh, good call. I’m bookmarking this post for when we do ours!
Post # 4
I think its great wording, no confusion whatsover.. Who was your calligrapher?
Post # 5
We used something very similar but some guests just crossed out the number and wrote in a new one! It was only a few extra people total but I was still shocked at the audacity of some people.
I think you have much better behaved guests than we did:)
Post # 6
we put _ of _ guests are attending and filled in the 2nd blank w/ the number of invites they had. we just sent out our invitations so we will see what people think. i think everyone will be fine!
Post # 7
Oh man, that’s a great way to word it! I wish my invitation person had thought of that. We just ordered them so its too late and I’m afraid for the entire RSVP/guest bringing process. I’m afraid they’re going to think they can bring as many people as they’d like and whoever they want. Yikes!
Post # 8
@DerbyBride – some people actually crossed out the number? seriously? that blows me away…
Post # 9
@Derbybride – WHAT?! People actually crossed out the number?! Oh lordy, people these days.
Post # 10
I have a question, and I hope it’s not stupid.
So if the invite was to a couple, I’m assuming you put the number two, and indicated both names on the line. What if one was accepting and one was sending regrets, how would they fill it out?
(PS I don’t know much about invites/response cards yet since I’m still waiting, but I’m curious 🙂
Post # 11
@DerbyBride, that’s crazy that people crossed out the numbers!!
I’ve only received a few responses and am hoping and praying that no one does that. I really want to avoid awkward conversations about the no plus ones.
I was really worried about people just assuming that they would get a plus one so I did some research online as to how people have been wording their reponse cards and took the best of everything.
Post # 12
@Helstrong, this is a good question.
If the invitation was addressed to a couple, on the inner envelope it said something to this effect:
Mr. and Mrs. Peekaboo (if addressed to a married couple)
Ms. Peekabo’s Fiance (if addressed to an engaged couple)
Then on the response card, it said that 2 seats were reserved in their honor and then both of their names were filled out on the line.
I actually didn’t think about if one part of a couple responded no to the invitation so I am assuming in that case, they’ll cross out the name of the person who is unable to attend.
This is actually a little bit of a mistake on my part but it’s actually something that I should have thought of but didn’t until now.
Post # 13
I didn’t join this site until after we had already ordered and sent our invites and I’m soooo sad! I wish I had done what you did. We’re getting so many plus ones and even twos! So rude!
Post # 14
Ok, well that makes sense. I just thought maybe I was missing something, or had it pictured wrong in my head!
Post # 15
Sooo… I know this post it a little old. I’m wondering if anyone can think of another way toword the bottom part of this invite so that if one part of a couple can come and the other can’t that they can indicate this. Any ideas?
Post # 16
I would think they would circle the attendee or cross out the one who is unable to attend…. (Bet that’s logical, and we know that some guests lack logic. And manners, sometimes.)