Post # 1
So here’s what happened;
I’m newly engaged (as of last week) and last night was the first night I’ve seen my friends. I also have a close friend who got engaged in November who was there last night.
I met with them at a restaurant bar last night and naturally everyone asked to see the ring and literally everytime I showed someone the ring, another person would begin talking about my friend’s ring.
Her ring is quite large- I believe it’s a double halo and mine is fairly untraditional as it’s a sapphire.
It was so unbelievably awkward and I think downright rude to even talk about her ring while they were still looking at my hand. She’s been engaged for months and she’s had more than enough compliments and they see my ring for the first time and all of a sudden it’s, “You gotta see Kali’s ring!” and “Look at Kali’s rock!” and I’m just sitting tehre like… “okay then…”
I love my ring, but their reactions make me feel poorly about it.
Sorry for the rant.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m sorry, but your friends sort of suck.
ETA: Sorry, I just read a thread than infuriated me. I can be nicer than that!!!
But really, their bad behavior only reflects their lack of common manners; it says nothing about your gorgeous ring!
Post # 4
Yeah, and it’s unfortunate that it didn’t actually surprise me though. I knew it was going to be awkward.
It’s just upsetting.
Things got even more awkward when I said I had already booked a venue, but my friend hasn’t even thought about marriage yet.
Post # 5
@lnadinee: I’m sorry that is just rude and upsetting 🙁
You could post your ring on your thread. I am sure you would gets tons of lovely compliments on your pretty ring 🙂 I’d love to see it, anyway.
Post # 6
@lnadinee: As friends they kinda suck I feel. One of my BM who is married now have a smaller stone. And when I saw her ring it was the most delicate thing ever and the fact that two of my very close friends where tying the knot was enough seeing how excited she was. My ring is a double halo but is a cluster and if me and her was engaged at the same time I would put all my friends in their place after telling her how amazing her ring is. People feel the bigger the rock the better but that not the case I looked at small stones and felt my fingers were to chunky for such a delicate Ering as part of some stack ring awesome but again thats my taste. Oh and from your profile pic it is a very beautiful ring and love that it’s not our typical ering also. Congrats!! Don’t let them take the enjoy out of this awesome time in your life.
Post # 7
@lnadinee: I’m sorry you’re feeling bad about your ring, It is lovely!
That said, if that other girl’s ring is an outlier from the group in terms of size, people are gonna talk about it. It is big and people like big ass rocks. I guess if they’re already on the subject of rings by looking at yours it is kind of natural that it would come up.
I’m saying this a bride with a no-stone engagement ring. I hear all sorts of crazy ish when people look at my ring but IDGAF. One woman looked at my ring and said ‘that reminds me, my husband said we could look at upgrading.’ cool story, lady.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@March1stBride: +1 Post the ring!!!
Post # 9
@lnadinee: Don’t let their lame reaction take away from how much YOU love your ring. But yes, it was very rude.
@nocleverbeepun: I had to think about IDGAF for like one milisecond to figure it out. Thanks for the laugh! And WTH is wrong with people?!
Post # 10
I just looked at your ering and it’s beautiful! I can understand how that situation made you feel, but others opinion about your ring can’t and shouldn’t change how you feel about it. One day when one of my cousin’s saw my ring for the first time she commented, “Oh, it’s cute.” I replied, no, cute is you, but my ring is beautiful! See, that was easy!
Post # 11
Aww, thank you! I started this thread yesterday and I posted my ring there too
Show me your sapphire rings!
Thanks for this nice comment, and I agree, I don’t understand why the size has to matter. My friend who I was talking about is VERY materialistic and that’s why it’s enormous. I’m not very materialistic and I also don’t usually like a lot of attention, but I wanted attention yesterday and, well, it just didn’t pan out.
She said that to you? WTF are people thinking when they say things like that, seriously.
I knew that both of our engagements would be spoken of, but it just kept coming back to her which was why it got a little out of hand.
Post # 12
Yellow gold sapphire- exactly what I wanted!
I’m going to use that line if anyone calls it cute, lol. Thank you!
Post # 13
That’s pretty rude. It would be one thing if you were both newly engaged, but this is kind of ridiculous. I think your ring is very pretty and unique and honestly it gets boring looking at the same-ol halo rings over and over. Some people just don’t know how to behave and act. Sorry you had to deal with that!
Post # 14
I love your ring…dw about them..I find most people dont realize certain wedding ettiquette until theyve actually gone through it
Im a fellow ontario bee with a gemstone ring and I get rude comments..i just brush them off
Post # 15
@lnadinee: Your ring is classy, timeless and very royal 🙂 Love it! Haters gonna hate but choose to ignore them!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
That’s really crappy of your friends. I know how you feel. My ring isn’t tiny or anything, but it’s a 1 carat solitaire and my friends have 2 ct honkers with halos. My ring ALWAYS gets shadowed by theirs. We will go out and strangers will gush over both of their rings and then give me a oh yours is nice too comment out of politeness. I will be honest that it bothers me, but my FI is a graduate student and I know he bought what he could afford and I love it for that.
Definitely post your ring. I love sapphires and would love to see it!
Edit – you posted it while I was typing my response. I LOVE it! It’s beautiful and classic while still being a little different. Gorgeous.