My ring bearer/nephew broke his leg 4 days before wedding

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Meant2Bee: your poor nephew! I hope your nephew’s ok. Hope for the best but plan for the worst. 

You should make a contingency plan so you don’t have to worry about your wedding and can focus on supporting your nephew and your sister. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

 

Meant2Bee:  How it affects your wedding should not be an issue. He’s very young, probably doesn’t understand everything that is happening, may be in pain, facing possible surgery, and more pain, and then rehab. Playing a role in a wedding should be the least of his family’s worries.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No, I get that.  She might have to stay home with him now, so they may both miss it!  Of course, they have to do what’s best for him but it’s ok to think about your plans and feel sad!  It’s also going to be stressful all around so close to the event!

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Yeah, your concern REALLY shouldn’t be about your wedding being ruined because your ringbearer inconveniently broke his leg. You should be concerned about your poor nephew who is probably very scared and hurting very much. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Send him a big cookie bouquet, or a bunch of stuffed animals, and tell your sister how sorry you are that happened. Worry less about your wedding and more about the wellbeing of your child family member.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Meant2Bee:  Your poor nephew! Obviously this means you won’t have a ring bearer. But that doesn’t matter, RB is just an optional extra as a way to include a young boy in the wedding.

Don’t get another RB, just have the Best Man hold the rings.

As PP said, this probably means one of his parents will miss the wedding. (Hopefully his father is in the picture so your sister can attend). Don’t feel bad about that – for parents, their kids come ahead of your wedding. That’s no disrespect to you or your wedding, it’s just how life is sometimes.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Wow, your 22 month old nephew is seriously injured and you’re worrying about how it’s going to affect your wedding? 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think some responses here are a little harsh. Obviously she cares about her nephew, but she can’t do anything to help him – he has doctors and parents for that. And I don’t think anyone’s advocating that she cancels the wedding over a broken leg, so she needs to at least think about contingency plans.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Meant2Bee:  You should be thinking about him not how it will affect your wedding. As a person who broke my ankle in 2 spots and had to have surgery. And now has a plate, 6 screws and a wire holding my ankle together. I was in a lot of pain and had to relearn all kinds of things with physical therapy.  

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@aussiemum1248
+1

I am sure she is concerned about her nephew!
However, she is not far out from wedding day and ANY unforseen change can be stressful!

OP- as pp stated, you can always have a groomsman keep the rings.
Just breathe, your wedding will still be beautiful i’m sure (:

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Ask your sister to wheel him down in a little red wagon. It will look cute and you will be catering to your nephew. More than likely your family and friends will already know whats going on and think its cute and sweet. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with aussiemum1248:  some of these comments are pretty harsh. OP is allowed to be sad about this turn of events. I’m sure she’s worried about how he is doing and how her sister and family are doing with all of this. And 4 days out from her wedding, I’m pretty sure it would at least cross any bride’s mind about needing to make changes to the original plans. 

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I love the wagon idea! Or if you are having a flower girl, she could wheel him down (assuming she is older and stronger)

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Only 4 days after breaking his leg, I don’t think the wagon would work. You don’t want him to fall over or do anything which could damage his leg. He might not even be out of hosptial, or if he is he’ll just be getting used to his cast. Even without a broken leg a 22 month old is unpredictable. I don’t like the idea of making him the centre of attention when he’s dealing with a new cast. And you don’t want to pressure his parents into anything.

Just assume he won’t be there. If he is, then great. If not… is a visit to hospital on your wedding day possible?? (That would depend on how much he’s looking forward to the wedding – at 22 months, he probably doesn’t have much idea and a visit the day before would be just as good).

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